Any parent wants to see his child in the future as an educated and successful person. We hope to be proud of the good grades and successes of our child in school. Everyone wants a child to surpass his parents, but forget about their past school problems. Many of us realized late that we lost precious school time to gain knowledge. Therefore, do not be surprised why children do not want to learn, but it's worth remembering yourself.
Why do children not want to learn?
If the child does not want to study, first of all, you need to find out the reason for such reluctance. The reasons why a child is poorly in school can be a lot:
- disagreements and quarrels with children;
- conflict with the teacher;
- uninteresting and boring subject;
- difficulties in getting up early;
- fatigue or stress;
- disinterest in the subject;
- excessive computer enthusiasm.
When a child learns badly, parents try to find the answer to the question, what to do? First of all, try to find the reason for this in a confidential and calm conversation. You can talk about your school years, situations in class, about your favorite and unloved subjects. Or tell the child about the habits of your teachers and your relationships with your classmates. Retelling typical situations of his childhood in school, you will give the child the opportunity to switch to the problem moments of his school life. The child will become more open, and this will help you understand why the child is not learning well.
Often a child does not want to study and attend school if he does not have a relationship with the teacher or a complicated relationship with his classmates. Parents need to try to keep abreast of the whole school life in order not to miss the moment and help the child to resolve the conflict in time.
The most banal and frequent reason why children do not want to learn is laziness. And it comes when the child is bored and uninteresting in his studies. The main task of mom and dad is to interest and attract the child, so that the learning process for him becomes interesting.
You can explain to children that the acquisition of knowledge is based on the principle of computer game. You need to properly master and pass one stage of the game to move to a more complex level, improving your skills. Explain to him that in the same way, step by step, as in the game, there is also learning at school. If the child does not want to learn to read, in the future it will inhibit the learning of any subject where the fluency of reading is simply necessary. When a child does not want to learn to write, it will be difficult in the future to quickly outline the educational material. Parents need to try to explain to him such logical chains, so that the learning process is continuous, and therefore interesting and successful.
How to help a child who does not want to learn?
Why a child learns badly, when for him, like, absolutely all conditions are created. The mistakes of parents in the very approach to learning can be covered here. The list of actions that should not be taken help answer this question:
- Do not force, hasten or punish if the child does not want to learn.
On the contrary, it should be supported and praised for the most minor successes, while not focusing on the assessments themselves. - It is not necessary to spur interest in studying with constant moral teachings. Do not ever compare it with someone and give examples of relatives or classmates. This will only lower the child's self-esteem and, conversely, will repel the desire for school and school.
- Do not give him too much pressure: perhaps the child does not want to learn from fatigue. His physical or emotional load in everyday life can be too great, for example, if the child is heavily loaded: he does a lot of sports, music, dancing, etc.