Manipulation is a way of influencing one person or group of people for a certain result. As a rule, this change in opinion, behavior, the performance of the desired actions on those who are affected.
The technology of manipulating human consciousness is a secret knowledge of the elect. Most of the signs resemble a war against peaceful people who are not ready and do not expect manipulation. Since the war is secret, success is determined by preventing people from resisting.
Psychologists, specialists of business structures, agents of special services, politicians, and sometimes even ordinary people use forbidden methods of manipulation in communicating with people in order to achieve their goals. The victim most often does not know what is the object of manipulation. Easily succumb to the most stubborn and do everything that is required of them. However, the reverse side of the coin is that each of us is, to some extent, a manipulator. True, very few people are aware of this.
Methods of manipulating people
- Manipulation of love.
- Manipulation of feelings of guilt.
- Manipulation of anger.
- Manipulation of silence.
- Manipulation of vanity.
- Sarcasm or irony and so on.
Methods of manipulating people:
- "If you love, then ..." - this phrase is designed for a loved one. For example, women so often manipulate men . Since childhood, the fear of losing love and being rejected is very strong. Some parents tried to manipulate their child, saying "If you do not listen to me, what I say, I will stop loving you";
- One of the most provocative receptions of a close person is the manipulation of a sense of guilt. Sometimes, people in the role of a victim live for years and consider it as a matter of course, but the surrounding people no longer wish to help them, and they do not sympathize, and even provoke aggression. Because the victim is always at the head of the family system. This person influences the rest with the help of guilt. After a while, people involved in this, begin to understand and react to this manipulation aggressively.
- People who use so-called tactical anger try to force you to give in to them;
- A person resorts to silence when he wants to show everyone how upset he is. Because he believes that you have decided that the problem is unimportant for him. People who resort to silence for any reason create an atmosphere that can spoil relations. Silence, as a rule, is calculated to cause a sense of guilt so that you understand how upset the person is;
- A challenge with an emphasis on incompetence: "Probably, you would not be able to ...", or, on the contrary, praise, said with the expectation of achieving the goal: "You collect reports perfectly! Most likely, and the one that I will give, no one will do it better than you! ";
- Man (manipulator) immediately chooses an ironic tone, comments and critical statements, backed up by provocative comments or jokes.
The psychology of human manipulation is an area that includes a huge number of methods, techniques and techniques. At one time, the art of manipulating people was sung by Dale Carnegie. But in order to protect yourself, it is not necessary to study
- Try to distinguish from the words of the interlocutor only those arguments with which they agree. Thus, you will select only the necessary one and skip the extra information;
- If you do not like the conversation, then change the subject. For example, say that tomorrow you will think about it. This will give you the opportunity not to succumb to manipulation;
- If you are provoked to respond to an insult or criticism, then ignore the manipulator. Say that you do not want to comment on this and then disarm the manipulator.
And sometimes it's just enough to say to the manipulator a firm "no".
And so, for the one who is manipulated, this skill does harm, but the manipulator is very beneficial. So you should learn to recognize manipulations, and better be able to apply them.