When people break up, as a rule, they are looking for a reason justifying the gap. Sometimes we think about this not before, but after the parting, especially if the initiator was someone. Anyway, it often hurts us to admit that the reasons for the disintegration of relations are banal and, in general, were predictable. After all, at the dawn of the relationship it seemed that all these stories about the seizing life, the discrepancy of temperaments, financial problems - it's not about you. You were well aware of these pitfalls and were ready for them. And yet ... they ran into something. Why do people break up, why do lovers make a decision to forget each other and live each life ...
If you ask the former couple why it disintegrated, it is likely that you will hear completely different stories as explanations. But almost always at the heart of parting lies one of two reasons:
- Non-compliance with expectations. Falling in love with a person whom we only have to learn, we, as a rule, automatically endow him with certain qualities. By the way, he absolutely does not have to possess. But later, when you learn a person, there is a sense of "deception" and disappointment, which give a big break in the relationship. This is especially true for women who do not want to reconcile themselves with the fact that a loved one has the right to be himself, and trying to change the second half. The mismatch of expectations leads to quarrels on different grounds: financial, sexual, domestic.
- Inability to control emotions. Jealousy, accumulated grievances - with inability to give a way out of negative energy, all this accumulates and splashes out in the form of painful outbreaks of scandals and nit-pickers. At this point, people find it difficult to adequately perceive
situation, the negative grows like a snowball. Negative emotions - a normal phenomenon, and it happens in every family, but somewhere the smoke, figuratively speaking, comes out through the chimney, while in others it fills the house ...
Disappointment, killing feelings, or an insult that outweighs even love, has led your couple to two different roads, it is important to understand how to properly part with the person who was dear to you. You need to respect yourself at the moment when you made this choice, which means - and half, which suddenly turned out to be not yours. Try to understand yourself and him. Forgive to cut the umbilical cord offense and negativity. Thanking you for the experience, and to wish you both happiness ...