Mankind has recently stepped into the third millennium. But for all its history and stages of development, no topic has been discussed as often as the relationship between a man and a woman. Love was praised in poems and songs, it inspired people to create masterpieces and to brave deeds. But she always was the cause of suffering and sadness. Relations between spouses are a topic that will never lose its relevance and will be discussed forever. Let us also touch this eternity, and at the same time try to understand how to make the union of two people harmonious and correct.
Psychology of relations between husband and wife
As the practice of most psychologists shows, despite the individuality of each couple, the problems relating to the relationship of the spouses to each other are repeated from generation to generation. Everything begins with the fact that each spouse is an independent and formed personality with his views on life, the traditions of his family and habits. A smooth and perfect union of two different people can not be a priori. However, the psychology of relations between spouses implies work on mistakes, the search for compromises, respect and trust to each other, which often, due to selfishness and inexperience, most couples forget. As a result, problems arise that psychologists call typical for most young families:
- lack of understanding;
- incompatibility of characters, habits and actions;
- discrepancies on those issues that require a common opinion.
Personal relations of spouses often cross the border of the confediality and in this fact too little good. The main mistake of most couples is allowing their parents, other relatives and acquaintances to interfere in their lives. No one is able to solve the problems of the spouses apart from themselves. Except for perhaps the family psychologist. However, experts note that those couples who come to consult with certain problems usually either do not realize the essence of these problems, or understate their significance and do not believe that they can be solved. However, if you understand, even in such an individual and unique cell of society as a single family, you can develop harmony and avoid disintegration.
What should be the personal relationship between the spouses?
In any relationship, there must be an ideal. A kind of rule or set of rules, living by which you can avoid most of the disagreements. However, this ideal is in no way connected with the expectations that the spouses draw in their heads. Another major mistake of any couple is the lack of understanding that the partner is not at all the same as it seems in the mind. So, let's present some valuable instructions that possibly help to avoid conflict or even divorce:
- The attitude of the husband to the pregnant wife. No matter how much the ladies complained about men, but no representative of the stronger sex can ever understand that such a pregnancy. In this regard, do not use your position and blame the hormonal changes. A man can also be understood, and it is better to avoid blatant abuse over him. As for the future father, he should not be shy about his pregnant wife, give her the maximum amount of attention and care and try to maximally share with her a difficult fate. With regard to the birth of a child, then in this case there are no exceptions - a man certainly gives a lot of time to work. However, do not forget that at home the spouse is not idle, and will always need help, support and mutual understanding. Young moms are advised not to forget about the fact that besides the child there is also a husband who also needs support, tenderness and attention.
- Husband and wife - sexual relations. This problem is as old as the world. Intimate variety is the nuances of family life, which not everyone can boast of. And if one of the spouses has problems that have become the reasons for the lack of sex, it is best not to conceal them, but to discuss them. However serious the truth is, it is worth telling her to his partner, until he came up with other reasons for refusing to marry. Otherwise, each of the pair, regardless of gender, will find a solution to the problem outside the family hearth.
- Property relations between spouses . Most couples remember this question only during the divorce. Although today there is a growing trend towards marriage contracts. These documents include the conditions for dividing jointly acquired property, common children, etc. That with such a question there were no problems, no matter how strong the feeling of two people at the time of marriage, it is better to conclude a contract.
- Relations between former spouses. This issue has many nuances and requires a separate conversation.
However, it is worth noting that if divorced couple have shared children, then neither side should prevent their communication with another. No matter how bad the relations of the former spouses were, it is worth remembering that the children are not guilty of anything and are equally fond of both parents.
The relationship between husband and wife can develop in different ways. But each of the spouses should remember the truths, which will always remain unchanged and will help to save the marriage. They consist in support, respect, ability to listen and willingness to help in difficult times. If at least half of modern couples forget about their own profit and selfishness, then the number of divorces will noticeably decrease.