Mom ... how much in this word. It is light, kindness, the power that can turn mountains, revive to life and save from the most terrible disease. It is said that the father loves the child for what he is, and the mother for what he is. That is, the mother's love is unconditional and the most constant of all the feelings inherent in man. What is maternal love - in this article.
What does maternal love mean?
As it often happens, before a woman has her own child, she does not understand what maternal love is. But as soon as he takes a lump in his hands and looks into the bottomless eyes, then, as they say, disappears. It is difficult to determine the nature of this feeling, because it is inherent in us genetically and determines the movement of evolution. The mother's love is what a defenseless baby needs, unable to live independently, and if he does not receive it, he may die. Mother loves her child a priori. She does not care how he looks, how he studies and what his character is.
She will find an excuse for any act and will be able to find virtues in shortcomings. Not every mother is capable of manifestations of tenderness, caring and warmth, because much depends on the atmosphere in which she herself grew up, but in a difficult moment and in a situation of danger she is ready to protect her child to the last drop of blood. In modern society, this is not required in the literal sense of the word. Love is the desire and the need to give, grow, teach, feed and dress. As they say, prepare yourself for old age, because children are our future.
What is the manifestation of maternal love?
If a woman is not a self-centered egoist, he will give up his own desires for the sake of his child. She is no longer alone - next to her part of her, and she is ready to give her a whole world. Together with the child rejoice and cry, grow and learn new things, to know the world. She will do everything to cultivate a full-fledged member of society, will give and teach all that she knows herself, help to realize herself, to stand on her feet. If you want to know what maternal love is capable of, you can answer that much, if not all.
She will turn mountains for the sake of the child, she will look for the best doctors, if he is sick, the best teachers if he has the ability. Great maternal love is reflected in religion. In Orthodoxy and other faiths, there are many cases when the power of maternal prayer saved the child from imminent death. Mother unlimitedly believes in her child and supports him, creates a zone of comfort and protection, demanding nothing in return, because her feelings are disinterested.
Why is mother's love the strongest?
Because a woman understands that her child is more than anyone, except it is not needed. Yes, in history, there are many cases when women raised other people's children and this was especially manifested in times of war. Today, children continue to adopt, adopt into families, but often the situation is dictated by the inability to have their own. The very concept of maternal love stands apart from all others. Love between a man and a woman can end, and love between mother and child has no time limit.
Blind maternal love is called such because the mother simply can not adequately assess her child. For her, he is the best. That is why it is so rare that even the most notorious scoundrels at the trial of the mother refused them. Not everyone is ready to admit mistakes of their upbringing, because that would mean that the woman was a bad mother, and few are ready to agree to this.
What is blind maternal love?
Unfortunately, not all mothers, when starting so much care for the offspring that have come into being, can stop in time and understand that the baby has already grown up and is ready for independent life. They continue to do for him what he can and wants to do himself. Often, women, disillusioned with men, give birth to a child "for themselves", making it the meaning of their lives . This is a dangerous situation, which rarely leads to something good.
Without thinking about how the child will live after the death of the mother, these women from birth put an end to his fate. As Anatoly Nekrasov writes in his book "Mother's Love", every time helping his child, the mother takes away his own opportunity to improve his life. Unfortunately, this is unconditional maternal love and not everyone realizes that it has the opposite side.
Maternal love for her son - psychology
The mother's love for her son is different from the feeling she feels for her daughter. This is largely due to the difference in gender. No, she does not see a sexual object in it, but the jealousy she feels for potential daughters-in-law is inherent in her. The son's love for the mother is strong, but she is raising him to care. So psychologically arranged, that a man finds love and care in his family when he marries, and no longer needs the care of the one who gave birth to him.
Treatment of maternal love
The progenitor of mum therapy is B. Drapkin. His treatment is based on the enormous importance of the mother's voice for the child. He recommends that all women while the child sleeps aloud to pronounce the phrases that will act as an installation. Psychotherapy with maternal love helps with various diseases, nervous disorders, tearfulness, bad sleep. You can independently form the phrases that the mother wants to translate into life, and pronounce them over the crib of children under the age of 4 years.
Movies about maternal love
- "Dancing in the Dark" by Lars von Trier. The picture of the difficult fate of a single mother won a prize at the Cannes Film Festival.
- "Where the heart" is directed by Matt Williams. Films about the mother's love deservedly include this picture about a 17-year-old girl who decided to become a mother, remaining alone.
- "The Angel of My Sister" directed by Nick Cassavetes. The mother's holy love, played by Cameron Diaz, helped her daughter fight cancer.
Books about maternal love
Stories about the motherly love of famous writers include:
- "Please take care of your mother" Kun-Suuk Shin. Family members did not appreciate the efforts of the wife and mother, and when she disappeared, everyone's life turned upside down.
- "Mother's Heart" by Marie-Laura Pick. A book about a woman who devoted her whole life to her children, but was forced to say goodbye to them, as a serious illness takes away her strength.
- "Doctor's Call" by Natalia Nesterova. The main character refuses her own mother at birth. She grew up, became a doctor and came to a call to the house where she was waiting for a sick woman who gave birth to her.