The Pari Method

Each parent has different feelings for his child. Someone from mothers shows a high level of emotional instability, irritability, quick temper, and someone day after day, the soul does not like in his child. The Pari method was created by American psychologists with the goal of studying parent relationships (primarily mothers) to the diverse branches of their family's life (their family roles).

The Pari test highlights aspects that relate to different life aspects in the family, as well as to parents to the child. The following seven characteristics describe the mother's relationship to her family role:

1. Its lack of autonomy.
2. Limited interests in the family framework.
3. Conflicts observed in the family.
4. Its dominance.
5. Self-sacrifice in the mother's mother.
6. Non-inclusion of her husband in family affairs.
7. Dissatisfaction in the role of hostess at home.

The listed characteristics are measured with the help of statements that are balanced from the point of view of the content and measuring ability.

The Pari test, which studies parental-child relationships, includes 40 statements located in a specific sequence. The subject needs to respond to them in the form of partial or active consent or denial.

Each judgment corresponds to the following answers:

1. A - absolutely agree.
2. B - more agree.
3. I do not quite agree, I rather disagree.
4. D - absolutely disagree.

Next, you need to answer the following questions:

1. If children consider their views to be correct, they may disagree with the views of their parents.
2. A good mother must protect her children, even from small difficulties and grievances.
3. For a good mother, home and family are the most important things in life.
4. Some children are so bad that they are happy and their own good to teach them to be afraid of adults.
5. Children should be aware of the fact that parents do a lot for them.
6. A small child should always be held tightly in hands while washing, so that it does not fall.
7. People who think that in a good family there can be no misunderstanding, do not know life.
8. The child, when he grows up, will thank his parents for his strict upbringing.
9. Staying with a child all day can lead to nervous exhaustion.
10. It is better if the child does not think about whether the views of his parents are correct.
11. Parents should educate children in full confidence in themselves.
12. A child should be taught to avoid fighting, regardless of the circumstances.
13. The worst thing for a mother engaged in housework is the feeling that it is not easy for her to get rid of her duties.
14. It is easier for parents to adapt to children than vice versa.
15. The child must learn many necessary things in life, and therefore he should not be allowed to lose valuable time.
16. If once you agree with the fact that the child is poor, he will do it all the time.
17. If the fathers did not interfere with the upbringing of the children, the mothers would better cope with the children.
18. In the presence of the child, there is no need to talk about gender issues.
19. If the mother did not manage the house, her husband and children, everything would be less organized.
20. The mother must do everything to know what the children are thinking about.
21. If parents were more interested in the affairs of their children, the children would be better and happier.
22. Most children should be able to cope with physiological needs themselves from 15 months onwards.
23. The most difficult thing for a young mother is to remain alone in the first years of raising a child.
24. It is necessary to encourage children to express their opinion about life and about the family, even if they believe that life in the family is wrong.
25. The mother must do everything to protect her child from the disappointments that life brings.
26. Women who lead a carefree life are not very good mothers.
27. It is necessary to eradicate the manifestations of a born malice in children.
28. The mother must sacrifice her happiness for the sake of the child's happiness.
29. All young mothers are afraid of their inexperience in dealing with the child.
30. Spouses should swear from time to time to prove their rights.
31. Strict discipline in relation to the child develops a strong character in it.
32. Mothers are often so tormented by the presence of their children that they feel as if they can not be with them for a minute more.
33. Parents should not be seen in front of children in a bad light.
34. A child should respect his parents more than others.
35. A child should always seek help from parents or teachers, instead of solving his misunderstandings in a fight.
36. A constant stay with children convinces the mother that her educational opportunities are less than abilities and abilities (she could, but ...).
37. Parents should take care of the children by their actions.
38. Children who do not try their hand at achieving success, should know that later in life they can meet with setbacks.
39. Parents who talk with the child about his problems, should know that it is better for the child to leave alone and not to delve into his affairs.
40. Husbands, if they do not want to be selfish, should take part in family life.

Interpretation, like the Pari method itself, is not something complicated. The interviewed person credits himself with points (A - 4 points, B - 3, B - 2, G - 1).

The total score is calculated. The received amount shows the severity of the studied trait.

• 20 is the maximum of the characteristic;
• 5 - minimum;
• 18-20 are high scores;
• 5-8 - low.