Psychological vampirism is not a new concept, but on the whole very vague and borrowed from esoteric literature. But really, how else can you name people who, after communicating with them, feel such a breakdown and fatigue that it will take more than a day to recover? How to calculate such vampires and how to deal with them in this article.
Signs of psychological vampirism
Famous doctor-psychotherapist M.E. Litvak wrote a book with the same name, in which he gave this definition to the term "psychological vampirism" - this is the search and use of people for their own defense and feeding up their energy field. The author believes that there are several varieties of psychological vampires, here they are:
- blue Beard;
- helpless personality;
- caring mother as a kind of psychological vampirism;
- cold woman;
- alcoholic;
- business-like sufferer;
- Cinderella and a princess on a pea, etc.
To recognize in the surrounding people such an enthusiast to regale someone else's energy is easy: just enough to praise yourself in their presence. Do not just boast, but note the real merit. The vampire will not miss this opportunity and immediately somehow caustically and offensively comment on the words, trying to devalue the opponent's achievements. This is somehow not said, but in the family is quite common psychological vampirism, when someone from the household constantly harasses others with some reproaches, cavils, and more often than not insignificant.
How to fight?
The anatomy of the conflict of psychological vampirism is simple: the more the opponent rages, the deeper he gets involved in the squabble, the more comfortable and even happier the vampire feels. How to deal with such a person in the environment? The most innocuous way is to reduce communication to zero. If contact is inevitable, you can apply a technique called "psychological aikido." Its essence is to completely agree with the vampire and always say "yes" to him, thereby disarming him.
Well, the most reliable and proven way - to be self-confident, not to be led by some kind of vampire there and be above them, to pity those poor people, if possible. Constant increase of their self-esteem and work on their personal growth will be a guarantee that no vampire will dare even to approach such a person, let alone pump energy out of him.