Even Aristotle said that man by nature is a social animal, explaining the people's desire for communication. However, there are people of a different kind: they are more comfortable, easier and more comfortable to be alone with themselves. They avoid situations that make them dependent on others. We will consider the psychology of single people and understand how to communicate with such a person.
Psychology: loneliness syndrome
The psychology of a single person consists in the desire for complete independence, the absence of obligations and connections. They admit people to themselves only a certain distance, both physically and mentally. It is almost impossible to look into their souls.
Such people, even in early childhood, acutely experienced a shortage of parental love and attention, true love, which should go from the heart. A child who grew up in such an atmosphere, or even raised by grandparents, often sees the world as alien, cold, unfriendly. Not wanting to get unnecessary emotional pain and disappointment, such a person simply does not have deep connections. If such a connection arises, a person will tend to devalue or break it, in order to return to the habitual state.
Close relationships and the creation of a family for such a person are a great challenge. Attempts to penetrate into his soul will face a tough rebuff.
How to deal with people with a lone syndrome?
If your friend or the second half suffers from a lone syndrome, it is important to choose the right tactics of behavior that can help to avoid conflicts and even to some extent help a person.
- Do not try to change this person, this requires his desire and his efforts, not yours;
- try to just support a person, be responsible for your words, to establish a trust contact;
- Do not patronize a person, excessive care can irritate him;
- do not prevent him from being alone when he wants it;
- Do not be surprised when such a person will make decisions without consulting you.
Try to find some entertaining hobbies for both of you and for yourself separately to ensure a separate pastime - this is very important for such people.