Many know about such a vice as laziness is not hearsay, but someone very much misses it. We are talking about workaholics, people who forget to work for family, friends, past interests, do not go on vacation and practically live in the office. And okay, if this is a lonely person, but what to do if the husband is a workaholic: show the children his photo, and see it only in a dream?
How to become a workaholic?
For those who have familiar workaholics, this question sounds, at least, strange. By the way, scientists also believe that looking for ways to become a workaholic is not only stupid, but also dangerous. Because such a predilection for work is akin to alcohol or drug dependence. It can be considered a neurosis, in which the only way for self-realization is work. Therefore, the desire to become a workaholic is absurd, if you want to learn how to work well, you need to struggle against laziness, and to get acquainted with the basics of time management, and not put a cot next to your working computer.
Where do workaholics come from?
Why conduct life at work, when there is a family, friends and much more? But when this is not, it only remains to work. Therefore, a single girl or boy has a better chance of becoming a workaholic than a family.
Sometimes, a person goes to work only in order to isolate himself from problems in his personal life. This reason is more typical of a workaholic woman, since ladies often put family first and, if it does not work out, give all their strength to work. Therefore, if the wife suddenly became a workaholic, then this is a sure sign that the family is not all smooth. Although there are women who are workaholics who simply can not do anything, not giving 100% to it. Since they were taught since childhood, they were excellent pupils in kindergarten, school and institute, they can not stop in adult life and continue to do everything on "5 +". Only that's the trouble - they can work perfectly well, but nobody has taught them to build a relationship, and that's why the family life does not go well. Men are more prone to workaholism because of eternal competitions, everyone wants to be first, and to get to the top, you need to work hard. That's where life lives, sitting in the office, forgetting that there are other things more interesting. But of course, we can not discount the purely financial aspect. If you need money, and there is no one to wait for help, you have to rely on yourself and work, that there are forces.
True, there is one plus in all this, if the other half works a lot, then home troubles with it are much less.
How to live with a man with a workaholic?
In an amicable way, you should think about what you will do with a workaholic with your husband, when you were going to live with such a person, because the dependence could not appear suddenly. Perhaps, in part it is your fault - to devote yourself completely to work, when everything is perfectly fine at home. True, there are times when a workaholic is a warehouse of character, but such a man in a good home environment will rather take important papers home than he will spend the night in the office. Therefore, before you accuse your husband, evaluate your behavior, maybe you yourself are pushing him to seek solace in his work.
But anyway, to discuss with the husband a workaholic, as you will meet with him at home, you need. Just do not start with reproaches, do not start scandals, just try to find out the real reason for such a hobby and suggest finding the time for a joint pastime. Perhaps it will be convenient for you to spend a weekend together, and the rest of the time a workaholic will completely give himself to work. Or you can adjust your life rhythms to it. Think about a joint vacation , where there will be no place to work, for example, a remote place where there is no cellular connection. Just do not try to re-educate a workaholic, such dependence is incurable, you can only explain that his attention is very necessary for you and the children.