How to tell a teenager about sex?
Of course, first of all, the conversation should be accessible and honest. It is very important to prepare the child for the changes that will occur with him during puberty. Attention should be paid to the following nuances:
- tell about menstruation, hygiene products;
- explain what erection, nocturnal pollutions;
- talk about such changes as the growth of the breasts in girls, the appearance of pubic hair, how the voice of boys breaks;
- explain how sexual intercourse occurs;
- pay attention to the issue of sexually transmitted diseases ;
- talk about pregnancy and contraceptive methods ;
- warn against perverts.
Usually such conversations are conducted in several stages, it is important that both parents take part. The topic of sex among adolescents today is particularly acute, therefore it is unacceptable for a child to receive this knowledge from questionable sources. If parents are not sure that some moments can be explained, then now there is a large selection of relevant literature aimed at sexual education. These books and magazines designed for children of different age groups can be read together with the child, answering questions that arise.
What can not be done in communication about sex with adolescents and children?
In the conversation you need to follow certain rules:
- You can not scold the child for questions on intimate topics or shame, so as not to cause distrust to yourself;
- Do not scare and focus on negative points, as this can provoke a negative attitude towards sex and cause psychological problems;
- in no way avoid this topic, because the questions about sex in the life of a teenager and even young children play an important role, because a child who has not satisfied his curiosity with mom and dad will go looking for answers to other sources;
- Do not make a lecture like a lecture and at the end ask a series of questions, checking the material learned, because this can cause the child no longer wants to talk to such a lecture
delicate topic with parents.
Conversations should be of a confidential nature, so that later the child with any question without doubt approached the parents. Such conversations can save from early sexual life. After all, many mothers are worried about the question of why teenagers have sex. One of the reasons is peer pressure, as well as the opinion that the conduct of sexual life raises the image and makes it more mature. And this is a consequence of the lack of objective information that a child should receive in the family, and not from friends or the Internet.