The sense of guilt does not give rest. I want to return to the past, correct a couple of incorrect actions and enjoy the rest of my life. Alas, this is impossible, the time machine has not yet been invented. We must live here and now, take care of every moment of our being and find the strength to forgive ourselves for our mistakes.
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Samoothestvo or self-flagellation is one of the most "favorite" activities of mankind. To regret oneself, to achieve compassion for others is a good prospect. So the psyche is arranged to seek excuses, again and again returning to the past. Those who can not reconcile themselves and forgive themselves their "mistakes", trying to "peresnjat" the plot of their lives, mentally picking up new and new options for possible actions. But we must remember that the past remains in the past. When you can not fix anything, it's better to think about the consequences and try to smooth them, instead of destroying yourself from within.
Many circumstances in life do not depend on us. You never know where you stumble and fall. You can not make a straw everywhere. You can not always control everything. "It was not necessary to go there and go so much, then they would not rob me ...". It's pointless to argue this way. Rob can and in the middle of the day, and in a crowded place, wherever and whenever the gangster will. And if so, why do we blame ourselves in such situations, on what grounds?
How to get rid of samoyedstva?
A sense of guilt prevents the person from "recovering". Focusing on the events that have already occurred, he does not pay the necessary attention to the fact that we must live on.
It is necessary to stop self-interest, because otherwise you risk ruining yourself and your health. Follow the recommendations below:
- please accept circumstances. Reconcile with what has already happened is the first thing you must do;
- try to find "pluses". Positive moments can be extracted from any situation, this is another feature of our psyche;
- agree with his innocence. In a similar situation, such as robbery or, God forbid, the sexual abuse of your guilt is not there. It must be recognized and ceased to feel responsible for what happened;
- find an incentive for later life. Motivate yourself with the goal, your dream. There are a lot of bright and joyful moments in life, for the sake of which it is worth living. Find the strength to cope with the disaster, recover from the negative and move on with his head held high.