In the life of every woman, sooner or later there is a great event - the birth of a child. For many, the role of the mother is unusual, very responsible and takes almost all free time. And life does not stand still and many people think that it passes by. A year or a year and a half after the birth of a child, women begin to think about going to work. But where to go? Should I go back to my former place and what to do if there were no jobs at all? Another problem is increased anxiety. Whether a joke, to drop out of life for 2-3 years. Returning to the usual rhythm is always a huge stress. However, there is no such situation from which there would be no way out. Let's try to figure out how to cope with emotions and find a decent job.
The first step is getting rid of anxiety and uncertainty
As they say, the best way to cope with the fear is to look him in the face. Among many young mothers there is a joke - what kind of work, and what kind of diploma, if only the children's poems and the ability to cook porridge remain in the head? In fact, everything is not so globally. If you doubt your abilities, are not confident in yourself and do not know what you are working with, try to do one small exercise:
- Sit down and take a comfortable pose. Close your eyes and imagine that you are sitting on a high mountain, from which you can see the tops of trees, rivers and a long road;
- imagine that this way is your life. The beginning of the path is your birth, and the horizon is your future;
- looking down on your life, start remembering the brightest moments of it. Those cases when you as never felt yourself on top, at the height of glory and satisfaction with yourself. Remember what these moments were, and under what circumstances they occurred;
- arm yourself with a notebook and pen and write down 10 examples of when you felt happy, loved, successful, etc. ;
- after the exercise, analyze your records. They will give you an answer to the question of what you want and can do in this life, who you can become and what successes to achieve.
Through this exercise, you will again gain faith in yourself and in your strength. You must realize your uniqueness and understand what you would like to do and what gives you the most pleasure.
Thus, having understood yourself, you need to go to the second stage - directly to the search for work.
The second step - activity and demand give rise to proposals
The main rule that a woman must adopt is that you do not have to wait until they find you and offer you a job. Begin to prepare for the search yourself. Certainly, a child, this is your advantage, because there is a guarantee that in the near future you do not exactly go to the decree. However, on the other hand, young mothers do not really like employers. There are several reasons for this:
- the level of your knowledge after leaving the decree, as a rule, leaves much to be desired;
- no one has canceled such a factor as the child's adaptation to the kindergarten. Employers will not be happy to have an employee who often goes to sick leave because of a child;
- another serious reason is uncertainty. After the decree, it is quite difficult for a woman to assess her strength as an employee. Plus a few extra pounds, left after delivery, depress almost everyone. And this fact will not go unnoticed.
What to do, you ask? It is necessary to work, and life goes on. And your task is to break into this life and carry all the obstacles in your path. Just listen to some tips:
- Before you start looking for work, work out the necessary options for caring for the child: who will drive him into the kindergarten and sit with him on the sick-list, make sure that your baby has already adapted to the kindergarten regime and, in addition, understands that the mother will leave for the rest of the day until the evening.
- When the question of the organization of the baby's time is decided, try to go on vacation and have a little rest from the baby and the current regime of the day. It is very important for you to change the situation and rest a bit before finding a job. Take care of your figure, health, wardrobe and appearance. Call for help those who have not lost their lives for 2-3 years and understand modern trends.
- Make yourself a competent resume. Exercise, which you were recommended at the outset, will help determine your knowledge and dignity.
- The main assistant in the search for work is the Internet. Today, more and more young mothers find work at home (the so-called freelance) or on the exit from the decree, they search the search engines in search of work. I must say not without success.
- Pay attention to the sites that provide services to find a job. You can leave your resume there and receive a daily list of all the vacancies that suit you. Having found something interesting, you can call a potential employer or send your resume for consideration. And all this, without leaving home! Also, you can peek at such sites as properly drawn up a resume and add to the written interesting facts about yourself.
Step Three - go to the interview
Once you have been assigned an interview, remember a number of important rules before starting a conversation:
- Note that your child is already in the kindergarten and in case of illness, he will have someone to sit with.
- Tell the truth about the true state of things in your life. For example, that you did not have a permanent place of work, but sitting in a decree, you constantly followed the new lines of activity that you have chosen, etc. The main thing is to communicate with the potential management of the business language and to radiate self-confidence.
- Even if you are refused, do not get upset. So this is not the job that you need and it's good that a person who did not see your potential will not be your boss.
Remember the main thing - in any business, be it a job search, or a life-long realization, you first of all need self-confidence. Once you can believe in yourself as an excellent specialist, employers will not have other options how to also believe it. In any case, you were able to give birth and raise a child, which is a heroic deed, worthy of your pride. Keep this pride and you will succeed!