We all know how important it is to have the right self-esteem. After all, if it is understated, then a person is not confident in himself and his forces, is unable to achieve his goals, is restrained and can not stand up for himself. And if the self-esteem is too high, then the person is arrogant, believes that everything has something to him, is demanding, too self-confident and often does not correspond to his own bar. Any deviation from adequate self-esteem is a potential problem for a person.
Signs of high self-esteem
Do you worry that you may have this unusual problem? Refer to our list, probably it will help you to put all the points on "and". So, you have an overestimated self-esteem, if you have the following qualities:
- Full confidence in his and rightness; "There are two opinions - mine and wrong" - this is from the lexicon of a person suffering from excessive self-esteem.
- Even a scientifically based opinion, if it differs from the opinion of such a person, is considered foolish and stupid.
- If you are sure that it is vitally important for each and every way of arguing and scandal to prove one's rightness - this is the main symptom.
- Such a person "does not know how to make mistakes" and believes that if something is wrong, then fate, other people, relatives or the location of the stars are to blame. Anything, but just do not admit my guilt. Of course, such people do not know how to apologize.
- The desire to be more significant, better than others, in any company to occupy a leading position and to bathe in the rays of universal glory. Even at the level of your city or village.
- Such people try to express their opinion on every issue, even if nobody asked. In addition, with the letter "I" begins 70% of all the phrases they utter.
- Such a person despises pity and help, and if he is given a hand, he considers it a sign of his own defeat.
- Such people absolutely do not take even the most mild and objective criticism, even if it is really very important in this situation.
- Fear of one's own mistakes is one of the main features. It is important to be in everything first, main, best and most recognized.
- Failures plunge them into depression - their fate must be happy!
The reasons for high self-esteem are different for all - someone was praised by parents, and someone came to it on their own. In any case, if you have an overestimated self-esteem, and this prevents you - either you catch yourself on such qualities and do not let them realize yourself, or contact a specialist.
A high level of self-esteem is good and bad
A person with high self-esteem is ambitious and self-confident, used to go ahead and achieve his goals. Initially, such people set themselves unnecessarily complex tasks, are inclined not to calculate possible risks. Such character traits perfectly help in the career associated with sales,
On the other hand, it gives the person a lot of problems in communication. With the smallest successes, they instantly experience "star fever" and they begin to believe unshakably that they can only be admired. In addition, to all those close to them they set up inflated demands, mercilessly criticizing all acquaintances.
Together with this, every failure for such a person turns into an occasion to fall into the abyss of grief and rejection of life. He simply refuses to understand that circumstances can not always develop as they should. In this regard, if a person has chosen the wrong path and constantly experiences setbacks, he will feel himself an invaluable genius and become self-absorbed.