Repeatedly every second woman asks the question: "What feelings do I have for my lover?". Then, if it is easy to determine the line between love and love , then the first feeling of heartfelt affection is very difficult to distinguish at times. We will find a solution to the problem, when the problem of the origin of the nature of your feelings arises quite unexpectedly, and even sharply.
Affection or love?
Love, most likely, can be described through a combination of tenderness, sexual attraction, respect and trust. And when the word "affection" is pronounced, the thought arises about not wanting to spend every day without this person. But do not mix this concept with the habit. So, get used to something unpleasant, for example, the daily exchange of sharp words with their mother-in-law. Of course, attachment can manifest itself both in relationships with the beloved, and in communicating with friends.
The psychology of attachment is such that it arises as a result, say, of inborn inferiority. That is, someone who certainly does not feel love for a partner is an incomplete person, not a whole person. And this shows that in the person of another person he is trying to supplement himself.
What is the difference between love and affection?
In a loving relationship, the partners are genuinely able to please each other both with serious care and with childishness. At the same time, despite grinding and quarreling, they try to go to a meeting with each other, they are trying to find the primary sources that caused disagreements. True love, not affection, and grows on a mature relationship.
How to get rid of affection for a person?
- Learn to concentrate on the present moment. As soon as you feel the inner manifestation of affection, be transferred at this moment. Because, when you remember something, you carry yourself to the past. And in that time you do not live. It's memories, not life.
- Do you feel affection? Ask yourself what you really want. Sometimes, with thoughts of the beloved man, we can simply fill the inner void, and therefore there is no love here.
- Be a conscious person. Practice yoga, meditation. Get rid of bad habits.