Often mothers have to deal with the problem of weaning a small child at hand. Kids sometimes are so much fussy that moms have absolutely no time for household chores. When addressing this issue to literature, they are faced with warnings that learning from the hands is fraught with even greater problems with the child in the future. About how to properly disaccustom a baby by hand without harming him, we will discuss this article.
Why does the newborn sleep only on his hands?
The child, being in the womb of the mother, is used to close contact with her, and therefore, getting into a situation when he remains without a mother, the baby can cry. When mother again takes the baby in his arms, he feels this connection and calms down.
The reason that a child begins to fall asleep only in the mother's arms and refuses to go to bed, can be:
- colic;
- terrible dreams;
- excessively excitable temperament of the baby.
On colic we will not stop today, because there is enough information on this topic. We will tell you more about the other reasons, since they can become a big problem for parents, and not only during the first year of the child's life.
How to wean a newborn child by hand?
In children, due to the unformed nervous system or temperament, the process of excitation is not always replaced in time by inhibition. As a result, the baby cries, can not fall asleep and only the presence of the mother next to it a little calms. For the same reason, a child can not sleep without a breast.
A lot of impressions, experienced by such an excitable child in a day, can be reflected in his dreams. As a consequence, the child will restlessly sleep, often wake up with weeping and again be in the arms of the mother.
In order to eliminate these problems, parents should follow several rules:
- Do not overexcite the child.
- During wakefulness, give the child maximum care and a sense of calm.
- Practice a joint dream.
The time before going to bed for the baby should be routine and calm. Mom also has to learn how to feel the child, in order to stop playing with him, changing the activity more quietly, when he starts to get too excited. Before going to bed, you should not play games in the bathroom. Help to calm the baby's bath with soothing decoctions.
Restrict tactile contact with the child and even more so leave him alone, so that he cries and calms down, also not
A joint sleep may be appropriate. However, to put the child in the same bed with mom and dad, we do not recommend, because so will not get enough sleep all three. In addition, if one of the parents sleeps less sensitively, it can carry a threat to the life and health of the baby. In this case, the solution will be a baby's bed with the lowered side, closely moved to the parents' bed.
To the child learned to fall asleep not on his hands, it will be good to make him a light massage before going to sleep and calmly talk to him quietly or hold his hand until he falls asleep. This method will allow both to wean him away from the hands, and to put him to sleep without a breast.