When in our life there is a significant event, we seek approval or support from people close to us. And these are not always relatives, since the section "close people" includes friends. And we do not understand how we can live if there are no friends. But, unfortunately, it happens. But why it turns out that a person does not have friends, we now try to understand.
Why do I have no friends at all?
- The answer to the question of why I have no friends at all, psychology advises to look in myself, and not in others. Anyway, it will be logical, because you write on the forums: "Help, I have absolutely no friends what to do?", The surrounding people do not line up in order to get you into friends. Can you say the situation is different? Yes, it is true, the lack of friends can be connected, both with the appearance of a person, and with his rare distrust. Now we will consider the most probable causes.
- You say that now you have no friends, but have they ever been? If there were, what influenced their disappearance: moving, changing jobs (places of study), getting married, having a baby? If so, then you do not need to worry, everything is in order, changing interests during life is natural. And if you are not interested in courtyard friends (of course, if there were not very close friends among them), then it means that you have just moved to another stage in your life. Do not worry, communicate with those who are interesting to you now, and friends will necessarily appear. If there is a break with a very close friend, then you need to ask yourself a single question: "Was he really that close?" If so, and the discord has occurred due to some kind of stupid quarrel, then what prevents you from renewing the relationship? After all, we forgive our closest friends a lot, and maybe in the heat of emotions you have incorrectly looked at the situation. Well, if something happened that is not forgiven to anyone and never, then what is this friend who allowed himself such behavior?
- Every day you ask yourself the question: "Why do I have no friends and no friends", and do not find the answer? Well, let's think together. Perhaps you just do not know how to be friends and do not want to. Tell me, are you pleased to look at yourself in the mirror? If it's nice, it's already good. And what about the manner of the conversation? Can you constantly scoff at strangers, consider their level of development to be lower than yours and do not hesitate to demonstrate it? Do you think that all people in the world owe you something, but you do not want to give anything in return? Simply put, you do not like all people without exception, but want them to be friends with you? It's hardly possible that such behavior can only be earned by ill-wishers or fans (if you are a really outstanding person), but not friends. Do not want to change? Then throw out the idea of finding friends and getting used to the proud solitude, because even the most patient and loving person can not stand such an attitude to himself all the time.
- You are looking for the answer to the question: "Why do not I have close friends, although people like to communicate with me"? The absence of friends, including close ones, may be due to the nature of the person.
There are such people, they are also called introverts, who do not need constant communication; they often lack their own inner world. Do not just confuse with narcissism. An introvert can be quite pleasant in communicating with a person, but he, as a sensitive nature, is simply afraid to let other people close to him. Because it's really scary to entrust your most secret feelings and thoughts to another person, where is the guarantee that he will not make a dump from the temple of the soul? If this is your case, then the only thing you can advise is to learn to trust people a little more. After all, the majority of people around are good and sensitive people, but you do not notice it, because they are locked up in their shell.