If your friends often hear long beeps or "the subscriber is not online" instead of "allo", it is possible that you are afraid of telephone conversations - telephone phobia.
No, this word is not included in the international directory of diseases, and such a diagnosis is only one of the many forms of neuroses. And yet, in our mobile time, the fear of talking on the phone can cause a real depression - because the phones are surrounded by telephone phobes everywhere.
What are the most common reasons for the fear of telephone conversations:
- violations of diction, stuttering. In a telephone conversation, we imagine ourselves only in voice, and for a person experiencing speech problems, a phone call can turn into stress;
- inability to talk. Not all of us have a large vocabulary. If you are accustomed to supplement conversations with gestures, and get lost, without seeing the reaction of the interlocutor, then for sure you do not like long phone conversations;
- fear of gaining or giving certain information. So, for example, knowing that a relative is seriously ill with him, a person will always be nervous each time seeing what comes in from close people;
The reasons for which a person may have fear of telephone conversations are many. It is important to understand that the phobia is not the phone itself, but certain human fears, connected with complexes or fear of some kind of information.
In some cases, to get rid of telephone phobia, you may need the help of a specialist. Sometimes it's enough to work on yourself:
- practice diction, learn to control voice and formulate sentences. Self-confidence helps one to enjoy one's own oratorical art;
- rehearse important telephone conversations, but do not memorize speech by heart, so as not to be tied to the text;
- learn to end long and useless calls if they tire you;
- if on duty you need to impose people on the phone, try to ignore the call, because the other person does not see you. Imagine that you're an answering machine.
And remember: all fears are born in our head. Telephonophobia is no exception!