Do you constantly call your lover while he is at work and start to worry if he did not answer the phone? And he does sometimes not answer or discard, and even in the phone unfamiliar numbers have appeared. Maybe he has another and he changes, when you wait for him every day without finding a place? The possibility of betrayal can not be completely ruled out, but one should also check oneself for "lousiness", perhaps you press too much on your man?
Why control?
Everyone, even the most powerful woman understands that total control - the approach is fundamentally wrong, but this will not prevent her from tracking every step of her man. Where does this desire come from? Psychologists claim that it comes from a mixture of two components - jealousy and care. But why some women literally do not give step to step their partner, while others calmly react to the lack of his calls during the working day? Are they absolutely not jealous or indifferent to a man? In fact, this attitude is not a sign of indifference, it's just that these women want to see a partner next to each other, not a servant. Although, perhaps, the ladies who play the role of puppeteers, just do not know how to behave differently, because they have been tightly controlled since childhood.
How does care turn into control?
Many can say that they did not think to control their man, they just very much worry about him and they want everything to be all right. But excessive care is not at all what a man needs, and that's why. You protect him, do what he thinks will be better, constantly tell him what to do, call to find out if your orders are fulfilled. And the mistake is that you do not even think to be interested in his desires, literally imposing his will upon him. What will happen next, it is not difficult to predict - the partner will say that you are "too much in his life" and will go looking for one that will not strangle him with his care. Of course, there are men who willingly tolerate such treatment, usually these are mama's sons, accustomed to the care of their parent. Such a man only need to find someone who will solve all his problems, and you yourself provide this opportunity. In the end, he will become so accustomed to be under your heels, that he will lose the ability to make at least some independent decisions, for which you will then scold him. So until it does not happen, pull yourself together and give your loved one a little bit of freedom, this will not make him want to escape.
Get rid of spy mania
Remember, real care will never be expressed in the desire to constantly keep an eye on the pulse. Get out of the habit of calling your loved one every hour and arranging a detailed, though affectionate interrogation, or, worse, acquire any eavesdropping devices to hear every conversation. You will have time to talk at home, let him breathe freely, and take care of yourself, instead of wasting time and money on useless in fact conversations. If a loved one has promised to return from work at a certain time and is late for 5 minutes, do not call him and ask why for so long. And give up the habit of interrupting his meetings with friends with his calls - give the person an opportunity to relax. In general, use the phone when it really is needed,
Another favorite activity for many ladies is reading sms, viewing contacts in the phone, checking pockets, tracing profiles in social networks , etc. This behavior can be explained (but not approved) only if there are real suspicions of treason, just because of the desire to know about his contacts, do not do this. Yes, you should know about his friends and colleagues, but give him the opportunity to tell everything about everything, do not play a Gestapo employee. And most importantly, do not make decisions for your man, consult him (in fact, not for a "tick"), and do not be offended if your opinions diverge.