In the conversation, we periodically use the words "self-esteem" and "self-esteem", implying that a person with these qualities is truly happy and pleasant in communication. Those who do not have such qualities, I want to know how you can increase your self-esteem. You can do this by making efforts to educate yourself. True, you should fear an exaggerated sense of self-worth, so do not overdo it.
How dangerous is the exaggeration of self-esteem?
It would seem that the poor self-esteem, the ability to defend their point of view, not by raising the tone, but only at the expense of their own authority? In principle, there is nothing negative in this, if only self-respect does not become exaggerated. Then it can be a problem. This hypertrophied sense of self-esteem will prevent you from objectively assessing the situation, and this will necessarily lead to errors, which will negatively affect your career and your personal life.
How to develop self-esteem and self-esteem?
It happens that parents do not even think how to cultivate self-esteem in a child. As a result, an adult already faces many problems caused by lack of self-esteem. But it's necessary to change, and therefore we urgently start to work on ourselves.
- A person who does not have self-esteem, usually has a low self-esteem, so first of all we start to struggle with this. Remember your positive qualities, they are 100% you have. Write them on a sheet, and opposite each quality indicate what they have helped you achieve in life. Pride in your success is a sure step towards increasing self-esteem.
- Having a full list of your positive qualities, you will be able to evaluate additional areas of their application. Think, for sure, you could better use your talents and achieve much more. And do not think that your experience and skills are not needed anywhere else, it is not so.
- Set a new goal before you, preferably one that you are planning to achieve in the near future. After each victory, be sure to praise yourself, feel proud for the fact that step by step you get out of the quagmire of despondency and self-deprecation.
- Often people are spiritually weak, insecure in themselves, try to rise above others by belittling their virtues. With such a person, you will always feel like a worthless fool. Therefore, with such people you are not on the road, try to communicate with them, as little as possible.
- Communicate more with friends, people who understand and appreciate you. From them, if you hear something impartial, then the criticism will be fair, it will help you to rise to a new step.
And in difficult moments, friends will definitely support you, which is very important at the stage of educating yourself in self-esteem. - Start sincerely believing that you will achieve everything thanks to your talents. Simulate a similar situation, imagine in all the details your feelings. Remember what you felt, it will help you to believe in yourself, and quickly fulfill your desires.
- If you have already developed the habit of serving, enduring humiliation, then it's time to put an end to it. Now, every time before doing something, consider whether it is consistent with your desires or not. If someone indicates to you your shortcoming, evaluate it soberly, whether it really exists, or it is another attempt of someone to assert themselves at your expense. If so, then such actions should be stopped against you. Do what you dislike, you should not and no one can force you, and to humiliate you, no one has the slightest right. This is not pride, but an elementary sense of self-worth.