Everyone knows the phrase: "Jealous of every pillar, and in relation to those who show pathological jealousy, it can be taken literally. How to recognize a person with delusional thoughts and understand whether he suffers from Othello's syndrome, or not?
What is pathological jealousy?
Everyone has experienced this feeling once in a lifetime or was himself the object of jealousy, but is it possible to talk about pathology here? If suspicions are based on reason and evidence, then there is no reason to blame the person for psychic rejection - there is a problem in the relationship, and it is obvious. Another thing is, if a jealous man throws himself on a partner without a reason and even without grounds and confirmation of betrayal, he continues to think that the husband or wife is wrong to him.
But even in the case when the partner does have a connection on the side, one can speak of Othello's syndrome, if there is no exact evidence on the other side. Pathological jealousy is a kind of schizophrenia - that's what most psychotherapists think. And it can both precede the development of the disease, and accompany it. Practice shows that people with such delusional disorders are dangerous both for others and for themselves. Often they require hospitalization, including forced.
Pathological jealousy - reasons
It is difficult to say what triggered the development of such a mental deviation. Pathological jealousy is a mental disorder that can be inherited. The child's mental trauma, which the child received in a family where the mother or father regularly changed to their second half, can lead to such consequences as wrong upbringing. Numerous complexes, self-doubt and low self-esteem are the three whales on which pathological jealousy is based.
Pathological jealousy in men - signs
Pathological male jealousy has the same features as female, because mental deviation is found in both sexes. But there are certain signs, characteristic of the stronger sex, due to gender :
- Extreme or unacceptable behavior. A man can scream and rush at a woman with fists, as well as on an alleged opponent.
- Pathological jealousy in men manifests itself as criticism and accusations, even when there is direct evidence of the woman's innocence. A man will still find fault with which, and even the most incontrovertible arguments will be considered as evidence of infidelity and an attempt to lull vigilance.
- Limitation of contacts with the outside world. The jealous man will not allow his woman to work, he will detect the time when she is exiled to the store, and any innocent conversations with neighbors will be taken as an excuse.
Pathological jealousy in women - signs
Women are jealous no less strongly, but their suspicions show somewhat differently:
- They follow their partner for real surveillance - check the contacts and pockets of clothes, study the list of calls in the phone, call themselves many times a day, write SMS and are at work.
- Pathological jealousy in women manifests itself as a rejection of intimacy.
- Regularly arrange for hysterics and interrogations with recognition. They want to tell you how the day went down to the minute, they want to know about everything, even the most insignificant details, so the pathological jealousy of the wife manifests itself.
How to get rid of pathological jealousy?
Often this is not easy to do, because the jealous man himself does not understand that the problem is in him, and not in the partner. Wishing to know how to cope with pathological jealousy, it is worth noting that without the help of a specialist who can find out the nature of this condition, it is difficult to determine the psychopathology and the features of diagnostics here. Adequate problems are taken into account and antipsychotic drugs and other psychosocial treatments are selected on the basis of this.
To try to cope independently with manifestations of pathological jealousy, psychologists recommend:
- Stop comparing and anxious thoughts will not bother you anymore. Love is not a commodity, but the relationship between a man and a woman is not a commodity-market relationship, so do not be afraid of more successful, smart, beautiful and see them as a potential threat to your happiness.
- Get rid of everything that poisons love . Many have reconciled that jealousy lives in their relationship and without knowing it they give the will to the feeling that love eats. Constant quarrels, claims and mistrust destroy harmonious relations.
- Control your imagination . The slightest delay at work, and in the head flashed pictures of treason and the more such thoughts, the more difficult it is to get rid of them and soberly assess the situation.
- Fight with your fears . Do not give in to an endless anxiety that can turn into paranoia. Do not create scripts, which then become a stencil and from which it will be very difficult to get rid of.