Parental love

To talk about parental love can endlessly. What is it, and how should it manifest itself, so that the child grows happy. Recently, it is fashionable to talk about excessive parental love and guardianship. But, does it really, too much love, and what does this attitude of adults to their own children lead to? Let's figure out what kinds of parental love exist, and in their psychology.

Types of parental love

"Loved you for no particular reason

Because you are a grandson.

Because you are a son ... "

This poem is nothing more than a description of true unconditional (unconditional) parental love. Most often this feeling is peculiar to mothers, they love their children sincerely and affectionately. In this case, the personality of the crumb is not identified with his behavior, that is, the mother invariably loves the child, while some of his actions may not be openly approved. This kind of emotion does not arise with the birth of a baby, but is formed in the process of his upbringing and interaction. Unconditional love is ideal for the baby, because it gives him a sense of security, an understanding of his own importance, but at the same time forms an ability to objectively evaluate his actions and opportunities.

It happens also that unconstrained love "grows" into a selfless one, which is manifested by excessive care and the desire to protect the child from any hardships and difficulties. Most often, this happens when the child is prone to some kind of disease. In psychology, this attitude to the baby is not considered the norm, since it introduces disharmony into the relations between the parent and the baby and prevents the formation of the mature, independent and self-confident personality of the latter. In addition to excessive custody, there are other abnormal types of emotional attitudes toward children:

  1. Conditional. Attitude to the child directly depends on his behavior and actions.
  2. Ambivalent. The emotions of the parent in this case are ambiguous - he loves him and rejects it at the same time.
  3. Indifferent or indefinite. Most often found in families where parents are still too young and personally immature, they treat the child coldly and indifferently.
  4. Latent emotional rejection. The crumbs cause irritation in the parents, so they try to ignore it.
  5. Open rejection. The variant that most often leads to the formation of the abnormal personality of the child, since the parents are not shy in manifesting their negative attitude towards the child.