How often, looking back, we ascertain that personal tragedy has gone through one of those scenarios that, after years, seem to us even beaten. One of them is old as the world: men return to the former.
He left, and in a moment a wave of resentment makes him hateful. Then, for some reason, everything was recalled only good, but in my soul flashed vague flashes of desire to take revenge. Later, and hatred passed, there was pain and longing for the beloved. The bad has disappeared from memory, and it seems to you that such wonderful moments as with it, will never again be. You begin to blame yourself and continue to wait for it, maybe because you just used to wait. Men who appear in your life do not pass the test of "like him." And you do not let happiness into your life, perhaps quite consciously. Maybe you are trying to return it, but they have not yet been crowned with success.
And finally you feel that life begins to bring joy. You begin to inspire the views of strangers, you spread your wings. You meet a new man. You hear the familiar notes of love in your heart. And suddenly he appears ...
Why do men return to the former, and why is their psychology so that they choose the most inopportune moment for this? As in the song: "I will stop waiting for you, and you will come ... quite suddenly."
Why do men always come back?
Well, first, let's start with what is not always. But often. First you need to understand why men throw us, and only then - why they return.
Perhaps your relationship goes to the point where he ceases to feel like a man. The way he was for you at the dawn of a relationship. You no longer admire (and perhaps already annoying) his sense of humor, you perceive him as a proper appendage in your life. You do not try to look like you just left the beauty salon. And here is the one who mocks from his jokes, the one who is always cheerful and well-groomed. A man is keen, he feels needed, loved. And leaves where he is happy, where life is not overshadowed by scandals and everyday life.
After what time men return in this case. As a rule, as soon as the end of the bouquet-candy period with a new passion. When he discovers that his jokes no longer so amuse, and scandals happen more and more often. Why is this happening? Because we tend to choose a certain type of people, corresponding to our worldview. And the former begins to remember you, and his memories are often painted in warm tones. Then, sweeping, the man often returns to the family.
In what other cases do our men return? Let's consider this example.
Perhaps you brought yourself to the altar of the family. I bore my husband like a little child. I forgot about myself. In such cases, the man has a great temptation and behave like a small child. Take the unauthorized. To wave off the intrusive, in their opinion, hyper-caregivers. And then the husband left. Because he is independent. Needless to say, how many men return in this scenario. Of course, as soon as they feel that they do not have enough warmth and care. Few woman will give so much care at the dawn of a relationship. First, the child left for
It happens, of course, that a man is overwhelmed by passion or love. You were an example of the best wife in the world, and now you have stayed at the broken trough. Do men often return to ideal wives? Yes. But, unfortunately, their ideality is sometimes a deterrent. Many begin to humiliate his wife, trying to prove to the whole world and himself that there is more power and might in him. Should I take such a man, if he comes back to the family, it's up to you ...