Seeing the title of the proposed topic, I plunged into a kaleidoscope of the past. Close friends, just friends or co-workers ... What a strange coincidence!
Practically each of them at some point in their lives raised the question of how to lead a married man. True, there was another category of women - wives, from whom these men were tried to lead. Now, many years later, I wanted to just put them face to face - those who were trying hard to decide how to take the lover out of the family, and those for whom this lover was a husband. Therefore, if you think that this article will help you understand how to take a man out of the family, do not waste time reading.
It so happened that I met these young women at the same time. Each of them at that time had a connection with a married man. The only difference was that two of them were unusually actively thinking out a plan for how to take this man away from his wife, and the third was submissive and resigned in the existing relations. The question of how to take him away from the family before her never rose. She explained it very simply: "He will never leave."
Our friendship lasted three years. All three years on the agenda in bold type invariably subscribed to the same theme - how to take the loved one out of the family. One of my friends during this time decided to give birth and gave birth to a lover for her boyfriend, the other all these years, periodically shook in the evenings to the other end of the city - trying to somehow find out whether he really sleeps in a room separate from his wife.
I still remember their calls at any time of the day and feverish arguments about how to take him away from the family. What was the result? None. The answer to the question of how to take away from the family of a married man was never found, and this married one invariably appeared with my friends only once a week - excluding, naturally, holidays.
And what about the wives, who, as is well known, almost always are mummers falling under a simple principle: "Do not put the closet back!"? I remember my colleague, whose husband, calling things by their proper names, dangled in black. When one obliging soul tried to "open her eyes," she calmly listened to the well-wisher and calmly replied: "In the evening he lies down in my bed. And in the morning he gets up from my bed. I'm not interested in anything else. " (Dear lover, if any of you find a way how to lead a man away from his wife who cold-bloodedly declares something like this - please do not keep it a secret!)
With another friend of mine, a very calm and very well-groomed woman, we met at the hospital, where two weeks were spent in one ward. Talk about how to take a married man, she began with me - as I understood, just trying to splash at least someone accumulated. For her then for many years the usual phrase of her husband, "I went to the store," meant that he would appear no sooner than an hour later - either with traces of lipstick on his collar, or smelling of some sort of perfume.
That's what she said to me: "He will never file for divorce. It will be necessary to divide the apartment, the dacha, he can fly off his chair in the Ministry. I'll file for divorce myself - in a few years, when my daughter is absolutely grown-up. I often think how many fools are fighting over how to take a man out of the family. My, too, certainly for each of his mistress promises that he is about to throw me. "
Well, what about the subject of the dispute, which is so frenziedly trying to lead, to repulse, tear off, tear off?
It so happened that for many years I worked among men. Each of my colleagues was in the same category of the stronger sex, which invariably aims women to the question: "Oh, well, how to take such a man ?!" Almost all of them changed their wives - someone in the greater, someone to a lesser degree , and quite often in a friendly way confided with me, wanting to find out "a woman's view of the problem."
I remember the words of one of them: "Yes, I know that I am a male. I can not miss a single skirt. Then I get drunk, because I'm ashamed before Olga. It's good that she always forgives me. I love her terribly and will never give up - although I tell every woman I'm dreaming of marrying her. "
... It seems that the women tried to decide how to take the man away from the other, back in those days when they were bragging about each other not with a "suit from ..." but with a "loincloth out of ..." What does the story tell us about those of them to whom it is managed? The fact that these women were led by the Mind, not by the Feeling. They were not at all interested in how to take their loved one out of the family, for the simple reason that they did not particularly like anyone. Their goal was indicated by the words "How to take this man" - regardless of whether they are on their way a wife or mistress. You will say - but what about feelings? I want to ask a counter question - are there any feelings, and if so, which ones?
"He does not like her, he will leave her soon, he says that he will leave her anyway, he says that he lives with her only for the sake of children ..." How sad these words sound in all countries, in all the languages of the world! Hearing them now from any of the women, I feel sad, because before me stand the faces of my old Moscow friends - beautiful, young, intelligent, intelligent.
How much unnecessary strength, nerves, dignity was spent on trying to decide how to take someone else's husband out of the family - from which this husband was not going to leave at all, and how to take the man away from his wife - which this man was not going to give up at all. Blind love? Most likely - a blind, obsessive pursuit of the goal, which imperceptibly for them gradually turned into an empty chaotic movement to nowhere.
... Somehow, very, very long time ago, I looked to my friend - a well-known in the city doctor-psychiatrist. I loved our gatherings and conversations about nothing (at that time it was difficult for me to imagine how often I would remember some of them!) At that time we talked with him about this - how to take a man out of the family? I remember asking him how to take a married man out of the family, if everything is all right there, if there is a wife who loves him and children who adore him.
That's what he said to me: "You can take any man, without exception. But you see, what's the matter. A wife is a sofa, a mistress is an armchair. Why should he lose the couch, if he can have both? "
So how do you take a man out of the family? From the very beginning, I warned that I can not give an answer to this question. True, quite definitely, I can say that she personally, without any doubt, would prefer a sofa, not an armchair - however comfortable and beautiful this chair was.