All families are similar in something and each family is individual. This is manifested in respect of family members to good and bad, rules of conduct in various situations, types of punishment for misdemeanors, etc. Rules can be public or private. Vowel rules are discussed and may vary depending on the situation and in agreement with all family members. The unspoken rules are known to everyone in the family and are not negotiable, however, they are mandatory. Family Rules - a set of all existing rules in the family, and vowels, and private.
An example of vowel rules is the child's sleep time. They tell him to sleep at nine o'clock in the evening, and he knows it. The child grows up and gradually the time of sleep changes. An example of unspoken family rules - one can not offend the older members of the family. This is not discussed, no matter how much time passes.
Rules of family life
What are the family rules for?
- support for stability in the family;
- creating conditions for the development of each family member as a full-fledged person;
- harmony of intra-family relations;
- avoid conflicts between relatives;
- distribution of rights and duties between each member of the family.
The code of family rules in each family is different. Usually, the rules adopted by the older generation, adjusted for the personal character of each member of the family and the current generation, are taken as the basis of the family statute. The family's charter affects virtually all aspects of her life. Starting with who and what should do and end with the expression of feelings for each other. For example, in one family, garbage disposal is the prerogative of the husband, and in another the garbage is thrown out by the one who went first towards the garbage disposal. In one family, swearing at children is the norm, and in the other parents do not even allow themselves to tone up one another if there is a child in the room.
At each stage of a new cycle of family life, family rules can be changed. It is at such moments that the ability of household members to negotiate among themselves is checked. On this depends the moral situation within the family and its psychological health. The pernicious relationship between relatives is affected by the absence of any standards of conduct, or their contradiction to each other.
Rules for a happy family life
- an expression of love and respect - just by giving something to a person, you can hope to get the same in return;
- equality is at work you can be bosses or subordinates, at home with a spouse you must be equal;
- freedom - no matter how harmonious your family is, you are still different people with different interests and friends - provided that you do not hide anything from each other. A little bit of free space is simply necessary for everyone;
- Do not check the bag, phone, pockets that do not belong to you - your mistrust can be taken as an insult;
- try to avoid ultimatums - everything should be subject to joint discussion;
- at a quarrel do not close in silence for a long time, the ability to seek compromises is the basis of long marriages;
- periodically practice humorous communication - you can even write comic
Family regulations, the fulfillment of certain points of which will discharge the situation; - constantly show concern for each other - in any situation, each of you should know that he has someone to rely on.
The rules adopted in the family have a beneficial effect on the development of children and the development of their personality, the formation of their "I". Children in such families are developing faster, easier to perceive useful information, easier to adapt in the new environment. As a result, normal moral-stable citizens of their country grow up, able to create strong and prosperous families.