The realities of the modern world often change people not for the better. This is especially evident in adolescence , when yesterday's sweet little girl, the tit, suddenly becomes an insolent girl in a mini-skirt, and a calm boy in glasses is a rebel and a bully. Difficult teenagers are more of a norm than an exception. How to help a difficult teenager survive a crisis ? Patience, tact, wisdom and our advice - all this can bring peace to your relationships with teenage children.
All of us once were teenagers, and, probably, our parents too it was uneasy with us. The problems of difficult teenagers are familiar to almost all parents. To understand what your child is going through at this age, you need to establish close psychological contact with him. Your children now need not only notations and advice, but also your understanding, communication with you. All this will help set the tone for life-saving decisions.
Difficult teenager - what to do?
How to help a difficult teenager? Below we gave the advice of psychologists who are called upon to help parents to establish contact with the growing up children, to make friends with them again:
- Communication - communicate every day, only this can save the fragile bridge of your mutual understanding! Trust is based on practice, and it can only be built on multifaceted relationships. Try to dispense with moments of communication without advice and notations, just find out the opinion of the child, his tastes, interests. Learn to put yourself in the place of a son or daughter, only so you can better understand his motives, behavior in a particular situation. This factor is very important, because teenagers feel more comfortable with parents who are involved in their lives. Otherwise, when there is no contact, for advice they will go to questionable (sometimes) familiar. Remember, to be a good parent, you need to learn to be just a good friend.
- Common business and interests. Even if you are very different, if your interests and interests are polar (you love classics, son - rock, you read books, the child sits behind a laptop), try to find at least something that you would like to both. Let it be shopping, baking cakes, cycling. Even if you are an extremely busy person, take the time to do something together. It will bring you back to happy times when the child was a baby, learned from you, trusted and listened. Perhaps there is something your son knows how to do better than you. In this case, you can ask your son or daughter to teach you.
- Severity, too, sometimes helps. The psychology of a difficult teenager is that he will resist any restrictions and rules. However, certain restrictions are necessary even for the most independent teenager. Make it clear that you will give more will, but at the same time a great responsibility will fall on his shoulders. You should always help the child, teach him how to plan, act on his own. In difficult situations, negotiate, make concessions - compromises always help out.
- How to cope with a difficult teenager? Patience and again patience! Being patient is always difficult, but necessary. If your child is an uncontrollable adolescent, you do not know what to do, perhaps you should seek help from a psychologist, and analyze the situation with him.
- Act only together! Many parents do not agree on decisions on specific situations regarding the difficulties in the life of a teenager. Do not tell the child about this, he should think that you are acting together, by the team. There should be no impression that you can "run away" under the wing of one of the parents.
Love your child, despite all the complexities and changes in behavior, nature. Show wisdom and patience, because right now he needs your help, like never before.