In order to educate a person, each thinking parent chooses his or her method. Some prefer to "indulge" the little child in all, others - on the contrary they choose "javelin mittens". What is right and whose family upbringing will bring great rewards - time will tell. Today we will tell you about the Tibetan method of raising children. For us, Europeans, the countries of the East seem to be something mysterious and alluring, and eastern people are always associated with restraint and wisdom. In Tibet, where the foundation of religion is Buddhism, the upbringing of children is strikingly different from what approaches we are using.
The basis of Tibetan education of children is the unacceptability of humiliation and corporal punishment. Indeed, the only reason that adults beat children is that children can not give them a surrender. The Tibetan method of raising children divides the entire period of childhood and adulthood into "five-year plans".
First Five-Year Plan: from birth to five
With the advent of the baby, the baby gets into a fairy tale. Approach in education up to 5 years can be compared with the upbringing of children in Japan . Children are allowed to do everything: nobody abuses them for anything, punishes them, nothing is forbidden to children. According to the Tibetan education in this period, the children have an interest in life and curiosity. The kid is not yet able to build long logical chains and understand what can be the consequence of this or that act. For example, a kid under 5 years old will not be able to understand that you have to earn money to buy something. If the kid wants to do something risky or behaves inappropriately, he is advised to distract, or make a frightened face, so that the kid realizes that it is dangerous.
Second Five-Year Plan: from 5 to 10 years
Having celebrated his fifth birthday, a child from a fairy tale moves straight into slavery. It was during this period that Tibetan upbringing advised treating the child as a "slave", setting tasks for him and demanding their unconditional fulfillment. At this age, children rapidly develop their intellectual abilities and thinking, so they should be loaded as much as possible. It is good to engage children in music, dancing, drawing, to involve in physical work around the house, to ask to provide all possible assistance to parents in the performance of daily activities. The main task of this period is to teach the child to understand others, to predict the reaction of people to his actions and to call a positive attitude toward oneself. It is possible to punish a child, but not physically, to "lisp" and to show pity is categorically forbidden so as not to develop infantilism.
Third Five-Year Plan: 10 to 15 years
When a child reaches 10 years of age, it is necessary to begin to communicate with him "on an equal footing", that is, to consult more on all issues, discuss any actions, actions. If you want to impose your own idea on a teenager, you should do it by the method of "velvet gloves": tips, advice, but by no means imposition. During this period, independence and independence of thinking are developing very rapidly. If you do not like something in the behavior or actions of the child, then try to point this out indirectly, avoiding prohibitions. Do not try to patronize the child. Because it can
Last period: from 15 years
According to the Tibetan view of the upbringing of children after 15 years of children, it is too late to educate, and parents can only reap the fruits of their efforts and labors. Tibetan sages say that if you do not respect a child after 15 years, then he will leave his parents forever at the first opportunity.
Perhaps this method of education can not be fully applied to our mentality, but there is still a good share of truth in it.