In fact, the title chosen for this state of mind and soul is clearly inappropriate. Or rather, the word, maybe it reveals the essence of the problem perfectly, but a person who has been experiencing a crisis for 30 years is already unhappy. And certainly, least of all, he wants to hear the diagnosis of the "crisis".
In truth, our life is full of crises. The first we experience at 3 years, then in adolescence. Then there is a "crisis of ambition" - at about 22 years old, directing us to the path of professional realization. The crisis of the first maturity - up to 30 years, and then the famous crisis of middle age - from 30 to 40 years. Believe me, if you have gone through a whole series of crises since childhood, then you will certainly understand how to overcome the crisis of 30 years.
Stereotypes or myths about the crisis of middle age
Symptoms of the crisis of 30 years we associate with two stereotypes. The first - the crisis of middle age is only in men. The second is that, for women, the crisis is the realization that old age is coming on the heels, and for men, the unfulfilled aspirations of youth. In fact, the manifestations and reasons that lead us to the crisis are purely individual and do not lend themselves to strict classification.
Symptoms
In psychology, you can find the most typical symptoms of the crisis for 30 years:
- impermanence in relationships;
- frequent changes of work and activities, hobbies and hobbies;
- cardinal and abrupt mood changes;
- outbreaks of violence;
- depression;
- boredom;
- anxiety;
- a sense of neglect, lack of respect for one's personality;
- the desire to change in everything from head to toe.
Separately, all these symptoms can talk about the most diverse problems of our bright heads, but in the aggregate - yes, this is a crisis.
A golden age or a crisis?
If you calm down and understand yourself, everyone experiencing the crisis will understand that there is a rethinking of the goals based on the life experience already acquired. At this age, thanks to the crisis, the number of our mental characteristics becomes a quality of personality.
The crisis was created so that the person continues to develop, he motivates to new achievements, trials, and leaves us two choices - either we will now live all the time "in crisis", or we will do self-improvement.
The age psychology specializes in the crisis for 30 years. According to the research and the data obtained, in women crises of this age are divided into two vague categories:
- Careerists who grew up to 30
professionally and financially, fall into anguish because they have not realized the sphere of "family, children, home." They fanatically and suddenly want to surround the children. - Housewives, who in their twenties began by marrying, got a life and gave birth, are depressed , because they feel unrealized potential. They think that those around them are not respected, they are considered empty.
The way out is to go about your desires. Careerist will help the birth of a child, and a housewife - a professional hobby, work or graduation from the university.