In general, shyness in children begins to form at the age of three. But parents do not know how to help a shy child. And sometimes they themselves provoke this character trait by ignorance. After all, as we have in the post-Soviet space is accepted, a little bit - disobedient children frighten Babay, the police and all sorts of terrible uncles and do not think about the consequences themselves. And the children are all different, and they perceive horror stories differently. Someone at a subconscious level begins to form a negative attitude toward a stranger, a fear that a stranger will do something against the child. There is a fear that gradually with age transforms into isolation. The kid thinks that if he is invisible, they will not be paid attention to him.
But, as he grows up, along with shyness, the child has a need for communication, but he does not know how to realize it, and there is a vicious circle - the child wants to communicate, and when he gets to the point, he is embarrassed and silent.
Recommendations for parents of shy children:
- Prevent any attempts of others (including teachers in kindergarten) to bully your child;
- think about your attitude to the child. Do not you demand too much from him? How do you react to your child's shyness? Do not you ridicule him for being weak? Do you compare it with others, more relaxed? Change first your attitude to what is happening;
- never call the child shy in the eyes;
- more often leave your baby alone with unfamiliar children younger than him;
- Give the child to the sports section, because active pursuits contribute to increasing self-esteem;
- Do not neglect the professional correction of shyness with the help of a good child psychologist.
And remember that the problem does not go away by itself, but, conversely, is aggravated with age. Therefore, look for someone who works with shy children, knows and understands the features of communication among shy children. Love your child as he is and help him learn how to communicate with others.