Surely you have repeatedly seen on the shelves a book called "NLP for Dummies" or "Secrets of NLP", as well as many others with mention of three mysterious letters on the cover. Authors of such books promise to make all readers magicians words, teach them to change any situation in their direction. It is interesting, is it true that NLP techniques are so miraculous or is it another widely advertised dummy?
NLP technologies in life
Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) is a complex of various methods and techniques that allow solving various problems. This direction in psychology is quite new, one can even say that it is developing, but it has already proved itself quite well. NLP techniques can be used for both psychotherapy and for improving the effectiveness of one's own communication. Initially, these technologies were used to help other people, and only then they were used in advertising, to increase sales. In practice, the following NLP techniques are widely used:
- Change of beliefs. One of the main rules of NLP is that it is necessary to take into account all the circumstances (feelings, thoughts) relating to any situation. But we do not always follow this rule and pay attention only to the negative, as a result, we get the impression that there is no way out of the situation. And if the situation has a property to repeat, then we perceive as a given her hopelessness. To change a belief it is necessary to rethink the situation, to find as many positive facts as possible, and all negative ones to be questioned. You can also repeat any positive statement, being completely convinced of it. Exercise will work if you spend at least a month on it.
- Anchoring. The essence is to link positive (for some negative purposes) emotions with some action. For example, you somehow spent a delightful weekend in a city. In the next visit you will expect something as pleasant and if this happens, then it is likely that when you think about this place and visits there, you will experience the most positive feelings. To use this technique in practice, you need to focus and evoke a feeling that you want to learn to experience arbitrarily. Having adjusted on the necessary wave, pinch (stroke, scratch) several times any part of its body. Do this several times, touching the same place with the same movements. Now, at any time, when you need to trigger a certain emotion, touch the part of the body to which you have made the binding. You can throw such "anchor" on other people.
- Rapport. It happens that you can not make friends with a person, you can not find an approach to him. In this case, you should try to enter with him into rapport, adjust to his rhythms - this can be breathing, posture or speech. With breathing and poses, everything is clear, but in a manner to speak it is necessary to pay special attention. The fact is that people perceive the world around them in different ways: someone more believes in hearing, someone sees, others touch or own experience. You can determine this by observing what phrases the person is using more, whether he talks about the form (color) of objects, about sound effects, about sensations or his own experience. And then use phrases from the same block, which is most often used by the interlocutor.
This is not natural for all NLP techniques, but these are techniques that are suitable for "dummies", that is, beginners. After you feel free with elementary techniques, you can use other NLP tricks to improve your own life.
Combat NLP
Speaking about the methods of manipulating consciousness, it is impossible not to mention the so-called combat NLP. It is necessary to distinguish two versions of this concept:
- the first means techniques used to help people (military and civilian) after being in the military zone
actions; - and the second is used to describe methods of verbal protection from too aggressive behavior of the interlocutor or putting pressure on the opponent.
Some believe that the second type of combat NLP does not exist and is allegedly unscientific. But if we recognize the existence of techniques of neurolinguistic programming for the purposes of psychotherapy, then it means there is another format. But it must be remembered that it is necessary to use these methods with full understanding, uncontrolled application can lead not to those results.