Convenient answers to this question can be found a lot. For example, why not say that men do not want to marry, because they are afraid to lose their usual freedom? Or why not add that men do not want to marry, because they do not want to be bound only by one sexual partner? In the end, why not admit that men do not want to marry because they already have one unsuccessful marriage?
However, personally I am confused by this. Always there were unsuccessful marriages, always the man was considered as the polygamous individual, and always he aspired to keep the freedom. Nevertheless, he married, had children, and took responsibility for his family. Studies say that men have been actively avoiding family ties only in the last 40 years - preferring to them an easy option of mere cohabitation.
Ignoring the above answers to the question of why men do not want to marry, I will offer my own, starting from the word "cohabitation". Or, as it is fashionable now to sound it, - "civil marriage". I somehow can understand that at the time of the NEP, for trade union activists in red-tied kerchiefs tied behind, civil marriage was an inspired breakdown of the bourgeois foundations. Another country, another time. But explain to me why these cohabitation is needed by modern girls.
I understand when a legitimate husband flashes around the clock. But to suffer 24 hours a day the flickering of an unauthorized person who at any moment can fade away, and to whom you must wash and iron the panties-shirts at the same time?
Ay! Lovely girls, dear women, comrades ladies! Do not be so accessible - so as not to rack your brains at night over why he does not want to marry you. A man never appreciated what was easy for him to do.
You can not imagine how many men of different ages confessed to me that they chose their wives because they did not settle with them on the first evening of their acquaintance. Do you think this is strange? And why? Today, men do not want to marry light women just like they did not want to do it two centuries ago, because human nature does not change!
Imagine how someone now snorts at me and half-disdainfully throws a friend: "And from what chest did this pronephthalene moth flew?" It's okay, nothing will fall off my wings, so I will continue.
If a man does not want to get married
Is that a question? In the sense of what to do if a man does not want to marry you, even though you have been together for many years? Collect his arms and send him in the direction from where he appeared on your horizon. (Do not forget to give him a toothbrush and shaving blades so that he has no reason to bother you again). Or - pack your things in your favorite suitcase, throw your couple of keys from his apartment from the balcony, go out and say to yourself: "I'm a free woman!"
If you suspected that this man does not want and is not going to marry, why did you waste your life on him? A man can have children in the 60's and 80's. The biological age of a woman is catastrophically shorter. But even if you did not want to have children (which I doubt), why did you throw those lucky cases, those interesting acquaintances, those new meetings and opportunities to marry, that you could have if you were free? You wanted to have a husband with you, not a roommate or lover, otherwise you would not ask why he would not marry you. Is not it?
But please do not tell me that you loved him. Love assumes equality of spirit and feelings, otherwise it is a defective dependence.
Why does not he want to get married?
Why? If you are cohabiting, he does not want to marry you for the simple reason that he does not see the point. What will change - except that one more stamp will be added in the passport? Men rarely marry women with whom they have lived simply as partners for many years. So in this case, bewilderment as to why he, a rascal, does not marry you in any way, simply should not be.
I know more than one example, when a young girl herself drove herself into a trap of cohabitation with her peer, also periodically wondering why a guy does not want to marry her. In 10-15 years, this young guy turned into a young man who got acquainted and started a family with another chosen one. And his ex-girlfriend - a long time no longer a young girl - suddenly realized that a woman at 35 years old to marry incredibly harder than 25-year-old.
If you do not live together, but just meet for many years - then let me ask you the next question. Did it ever occur to you that if a man does not want to marry any woman, does this simply mean that he does not at all like this woman?
... I still do not understand who and why decided that men do not want to marry. Of course, they fall in love, of course, they marry, of course, they have children. And among my acquaintances are quite young married couples, in which husbands adore their wives. What's the secret? Men love those women who love themselves. And who, in response to the proposal: "Let's live together!" Shrug their shoulders and reply: "Why? If we get married, then we will live together. "