When you first started dating, everything was fine: beautiful courtship, romantic walks, all life seemed a fairy tale, because you met a real prince! He was smart and gallant, and from the first meeting you felt that this guy has serious intentions. However, after the marriage, everything changed: now he is not a prince, but a scoundrel, and not a gallant young man who respects any choice of the lady of his heart, but a domestic tyrant who imprisoned his wife in the iron clutches of his ego, which he claims at her expense: then it's impossible not to put it on, do not tidy up the bed otherwise, think the way I said, do not go to your friends, lock yourself at home and forget about everything that does not concern the family.
How to live with your husband a tyrant?
A tyrant in a family is a big problem, because in this case his partner constantly suffers humiliation and moral pressure. The role of the oppressor can also be played by a woman who is socially and morally stronger than a man, but most often tyrants in the family are husbands. Living with a tyrant is not an easy task, but if you need to save a family, you can try to get along with him, and if that does not help, then you'll have to collect suitcases.
- How to talk to a tyrant? With him it is better not to talk: either to be silent or to order. Find a strong position in any situation, and, starting from it, object to his quibbles. I washed the dishes poorly, but it did not suit him? - let him wash it himself. Do not let her friends in the cafe? - well, let a crowd of women come to your house just when he wants privacy and tranquility. Put him in terrible psychological conditions, just like he does you.
- How to behave with a tyrant? Your manner of behavior should be more rigid than him. You're not a little girl who can not respond with an insulting word or deed, but an established personality that will not allow her to disrespect yourself. Learn to keep your promises, watch for its shortcomings and reproach. Let him feel in your role for several months, and then you can sit down together and agree. Your task is to break his personality, as he aspires to do it with you.
What if you got a tyrant husband?
Unfortunately, it is necessary to struggle with such a husband only by the same methods that he uses. Become impudent and copy his actions, words, manner of behavior. Men also have homework, and if he, for example, is accustomed to meticulously study the result of your work, then hurry next time to play the whole investigation: is the nail hammered correctly? And after that, organize a concert with arguments, what kind of inept hands he has, what kind of "fellow" his papa, that he did not teach his son to a man's craft, etc.
However, before you start to get rid of the tyrant's man, work on your strong-willed qualities to be able to bring him to the limit when he realizes that he behaves badly.
How to escape from her husband's tyrant?
If it did not change, and all attempts only caused him a lot of aggression, then, it is necessary to part. However, this too is not easy, because tyrants are very restrained and consider their loved ones as someone like lifelong slaves, who should always be near and with army readiness to obey.
So, how to get rid of the husband of a tyrant:
- do not try to please him, purposely cause antipathy;
- neglect what he values in you, behave coldly and keep silent;
- say that you do not love him;
- collect things, take the children and file for divorce, before finding a job and picking up housing.
How to recognize a tyrant?
To not accidentally marry a tyrant, pay attention to the nature of the man and his profession:
- Among the military people there are often tyrants, especially those who do not occupy a high position: these people obey the work all their lives, and it is not surprising that at home they will want to be commanders. Nevertheless, among these people sometimes there are also wonderful family members, reliable and faithful spouses who will not leave in a difficult moment, are not afraid of dirty work and are very clever.
- If a young man at the first meetings insists that you refuse something (for example, from a bad habit) and tries to limit - that means, he is a potential tyrant.
- Even if a man knows how to properly mask his tyrannical inclinations, you can notice some "habits" already at the first meeting: for example, the decision on which movie to watch or which way to go to the cinema for a tyrant is to choose on its own in order to demonstrate its dominance.
The outlook for the relationship with the tyrant depends on how much the woman will be able to defend her rights and prove that her word is not the last one. Take an example from cats: soft, soft paws do not mean defenselessness, because they have hidden claws, which are always ready to punish the offender.