Some women after the divorce do not refuse to have sex with the ex-husband. The norm is or is still some serious problem, let's try to figure it out.
The reasons for such "strange" relations
- Divorce was a mistake, and you still love your ex-husband. At such times, you can overcome the longing for him, especially if he adds fuel to the fire and says that he loves, misses and wants to return everything back. Most likely, the very next morning after a stormy night, you both will regret that you did it. It is best in such a situation to completely exclude any contact with the ex-husband and strike him out of his life.
- At the expense of sex with the former you want to assert yourself. After a divorce, you feel depressed and no one needs, and sex can convince the opposite. In this case, having sex with an ex-husband does not help, it is better to find yourself a new partner who will meet your needs.
- Sex is good for health. You have not had an intimate relationship after the divorce. And prolonged abstinence , as you know, can be bad for health. In this case, sex with the former is quite an acceptable option, because apart from the usual satisfaction of your needs, you are not interested in anything. When a new man appears on the horizon, you must once and for all stop the sexual relationship with the former.
- The former husband was the best in comparison with others. After an annual "training" he knows all your points and in a moment can deliver an unforgettable orgasm, which does not work for new partners. Here you should understand that the husband did not immediately learn this, so a little patience and with the new man you will experience the same pleasure, and maybe more.
Pros of such relations
From the above listed reasons, there are several positive sides:
- he knows you like no other;
- you do not need to look for anyone to meet your needs;
- now you have an open relationship with your ex-husband and you have the right to do whatever you want;
- in this way you can prove to him that he lost;
- there is a great chance that you will come out again with your husband.
The minuses of such relations
Sex with an ex-husband will certainly harm your new relationship. In order for you to have the opportunity to build a new relationship and get married again, you need to completely get rid of everything that has bound you. When the new husband has a new woman, you will be left with nothing, and then you will suffer even more. Memories can weary the soul, you will feel depressed and trampled, and you will also have an unpleasant feeling that you have been used.
Test yourself
So that you can test yourself and understand what it means, for you sex with an ex-husband, answer the following questions:
- Do you have a desire to return your ex-husband?
- If you have any negative emotions towards the former?
- Do you still love him?
- If you have sex with him, it will affect your life?
- Is this an obstacle to starting a new life?
If all the questions you gave a negative answer, then sex with an ex-husband for you does not mean anything, you just satisfy your needs. And if at least one question provoked doubts in you, then it is better to refuse such a connection.
Conclusion
Understand that such sex can become a "rake", which you are constantly attacking. Such relationships will resume in your mind all the memories, among which there are more bad ones, since you are still divorced. In general, decide for yourself what you want to receive and only then make your choice.