The point of view that virtually all philosophers, psychologists, sociologists and urbanists adhere to today - the formation of the moral culture of the individual - is entirely the merit of the environment.
Culture and moral development
Suppose you are in dispute with an opponent. The dispute concerns whether it is normal to live in a society where the well-being of the family determines how rich the children from this family will eventually be. Most likely, you think that you are right, but your interlocutor is wrong. But he claims that you are mistaken. So, you both think that there can be only one right.
Meanwhile, the conflict of moral values does not mean that some of these values are "wrong." Both socialists and monarchists are equally right, they just have different points of view.
In the minds of most people, "moral culture" is a kind of analogue of the psychological whip, which can be kept "within" those who behave "unacceptably." But in fact culture is first of all a competent ability to handle a resource. (Think about the expressions "culture of consumption", "culture of physical development"). The moral culture of communication, for example, is not only to share the values of one's environment and follow the rules accepted in the environment. It is also about letting others have their own opinions and values . After all, these are not arbitrary values; other people and other communities also have their own history, which led them to certain conclusions. Communities and people with self-destructive attitudes usually have a very short history, so you will not have to deal with them.
Formation of moral culture
What to choose, if everyone is right, but at the same time claim completely different? - you ask.
Different cultures and communities have many intersections and common places. These are the main moral values: concern for the weak members of the community, concern for the future, responsible attitude to what has already been created. Any discussion about what is acceptable and what is not, can remain a benevolent discussion, if in time to remember that the disputing parties have common aspirations.
Of course, there are points of view that exclude each other; their carriers can not come to a common opinion on a number of issues. But the moral culture of man is just to let another live his life as he sees fit and pay more attention to his own life.
It is already quite short enough to waste time on cruel and meaningless disputes.
The main rule of the moral culture of an integral, harmonious personality is to realize that its point of view and values are not the only true ones possible. We must strive to ensure that our moral values make our life more complete and happier. But we must bear in mind that the ideal is unattainable, because the same set of rules can not be applied to all possible situations.
The ability to change one's point of view, to assess the situation as a whole, to see a little further than the emotions dictate is an important part of the moral and psychological culture that should be educated in oneself and their children.