In the romantic period, when a man "conquers" a woman, only the best qualities and sincere intentions appear in his behavior. Of course, we are talking about a man in love. But even such a man can be the owner and manipulator in relation to a woman. And over time, this pattern of behavior is only fixed.
Signs of a male manipulator
At once to understand, that before you the man-manipulator - not so is simple. No, men do not disguise themselves, they do not pretend. They really can be interested in a woman and show her warm, tender and passionate feelings. However, a woman should understand that every man in the process of courtship is always a "knight". But what it really is, how to recognize a man manipulator - this must be learned.
The enamored (subjugated) woman seldom hears the voice of reason or outside advice, guided by her own feelings. This is good and bad. It is good to plunge into the fullness of feelings and experiences, but it's bad to not think about the consequences at all. Therefore, any girl should learn to recognize good and responsible guys from manipulators (even lovers).
The signs of manipulating the consciousness and feelings of the other person are similar in many respects.
- Artificial understatement of self-esteem . Man-manipulator in every way (often in veiled ways) tries to confuse the woman, inspire her with the idea of her own importance and superiority. Having lost vigilance, a woman easily falls under someone else's influence. She already doubts herself, what she wants, where her thoughts are, where strangers are. The woman gradually becomes entangled in her own doubts, becomes insecure, but still does not understand what is happening for a long time. It is necessary for a man to present his demands more rigidly, as she becomes an obedient lamb, losing her own will. Such a woman is easy to manage, manipulate, inspire fear , exercise power over her.
- Hidden aggression . Man-manipulator is not always an open aggressor. Most often a woman can not understand who is next to her, because the man to any question "on the forehead" answers evasively and indistinctly. Moreover, very quickly man and woman change places, and already a man asks questions (using the tactic "the best defense - attack"), and the woman begins to feel guilty, she does not understand for what. Such relations acquire a negative connotation. And many women are able to get stuck in them for a long time.
- Mood swings and frequent changes of feelings . Another sign of the manipulator - behavioral reactions in which a woman then feels incredible love to her, then feels a male hatred. All her time, all the forces go to understand this rebus - what does he really feel for her. But male manipulators can play this game for a very long time if they see the result. A man will swear to pledge his love and loyalty and at the same time carp at trivialities. Thus, a woman, confused, will always be at a disadvantage to her victim's position.
The woman starts to rush about in these relationships - she remembers it to others, good and attentive, dreams to fix it, or decided to wait until everything again is adjusted "as before." The woman, thus, does not even realize that she is pushing herself further into the abyss. If the man-manipulator complicates relations from the very beginning, then the life of the woman will become simply unbearable. And do not live in illusions. But to take measures, to protect yourself, to anticipate the situation you need. For this you need to learn to recognize the male manipulator in the relationship and its signs, analyze the possible course of events.
How to lead a man with a manipulator?
As with any explicit or hidden aggressor:
- Do not allow "to enter" into your personal space;
- do not lose self-control and will;
- not feel guilty;
- Do not build further plans with this man.