The focus on past problems, hinders work and communication with close people, obscuring important and pleasant moments of the present. The desire to return to the past and change something in it is a chain that rivet you to the past, preventing you from enjoying the present ... and building your future. No wonder they say: when the past is not forgotten, the future is closed.
Knowing how to go through the past can give you freedom and vitality. Ability to leave behind past relationships, people, regrets, feelings of guilt, destructive thoughts will allow you to feel happiness and mental peace.
How to learn to let go of the past?
- Choose a situation that prevents you from living in the present. Feel it and remember how they were dressed then, what words they heard, what they experienced. Realize how much time has passed, and write this number on the sheet. Recognize that you have changed and assess the situation yourself.
- Perhaps you remember some mistakes made in the past, but this does not make you "bad". By the mental reproduction of the situation, you destroy your self-confidence, punishing yourself with severe reprimands. Everybody makes mistakes. But you are not your mistakes - you need to understand this.
- If you understand that you can not let go of the past because of negative emotions, then this is already good. To get rid of them, try to start a diary and describe everything that has accumulated with you.
- To achieve inner balance, to relax the brain and body, to achieve a calm state of mind, when emotions from the past do not overshadow the present, use meditation. Be completely in the present - focus on breathing, melody or mantra and return to the present state, when thoughts tend to return you to the past. This technique, after regular practice, will allow you to manage your attention and avoid returning to the past.
- When you can mentally thank the past for everything that happened - you will let go of all his sorrows. Try to be grateful for those events, especially when you were going through hard times. Think, maybe you are stronger? What did this situation teach you? Without past events, you would not have become so! There are citations in the literature that will help you feel gratitude.
- You can not control the words and actions of other people, but did you take responsibility for your role then? Be a participant in the action, take responsibility. What would you change then? Be grateful for the lesson and for being responsible for your actions. You do not need to go back into memories if you do not want it.
- Do not worry about trifles. Think about whether those events are really important if you look at the situation as a whole from the outside. If it's a trifle then you do not have to worry. Another perception will raise your consciousness to a new level, and you will begin to see more possible options.
- Look at your life from afar. You are born to know love. If you hold on to your pain, then the experience has remained your un-learned lesson.
Willingness to forgive will fill your heart with grace and will enable you to go to your goals.
How to let go of past relationships?
- Do a ritual, for example, imagine people you can not forgive and mentally cut the thread that binds you, release it like a balloon into flight, thanking and wishing a happy life without you,
or write a letter about your pain and destroy it. - Forgive yourself or someone else. It does not mean that those words or actions you approve - you just accept them. This will allow you to move forward, discarding the burden of negative emotions.
- Change your life, define new goals, start something new: go on vacation, sign up for courses, change jobs ...
- Realize that your feelings are your personal choice.
Do you want to continue to miss the bright moments of the present, and that your life flies by? It all depends on you - say, finally, farewell to your past!