Flirtation is a way to attract the attention of a representative of the opposite sex, to awaken his interest and desire to get acquainted closer. But in spite of the fact that flirting itself always implies an easy share of frivolity, it is often able to develop into a serious relationship. However, one should not perceive flirting with a guy solely as a way to get married, because, first of all, this is an exciting game that helps to keep yourself "in good shape" and to feel your own attractiveness. Today, many girls are very popular with pickup courses, in which participants are introduced to the main secrets of seduction. Some of the basic rules of pick-up and will be offered in this article.
How to flirt with a guy, learn the basics:
- To awaken someone you are interested in, you must become an interesting person. And the point here is not in external attractiveness, but in the ability to correctly educate yourself.
- For someone to be able to imbue you with sympathy, you yourself must love yourself. In other words, you must learn to perceive yourself as you are, with all your strengths and weaknesses.
- Love of all ages is submissive, that's why you can learn the art of flirting equally in both 16 and 40 years, the main thing is to have a desire to learn something new.
- Do not put off till tomorrow what you can do today. If you decided to start a new life, do it right away, without delay, tomorrow. Sign up for the dance, go to the gym, do the original manicure or use any other way to please yourself and increase your own self-esteem.
The art of flirting with a guy, where to start?
If you do not dare to speak on the street with a strange man just because you are afraid to seem stupid or too intrusive to him, you first of all will have to learn to overcome your own indecision. To do this, take it as a rule at least once a day to start a conversation with a casual passer-by. And soon you will see that this is much easier than it seems initially. Here are some effective reasons for starting a fleeting conversation: "I am in this part of the city for the first time, will you tell me how to find a pharmacy / sewing studio / service center?" Or "I missed the bus, do you know when the next one will be?" , "I was told that somewhere there is a library ..."
After such conversations stop scare you, go to a more complex task: the ability to translate the conversation into the right direction for you. For example, after answering the question: "What time is it?" "As though, by the way, notice that" today you have been hovering all day like a squirrel in a wheel, but you have not had anything "or throw any other phrase, that you are not averse to switching to an informal style of conversation.
If your interlocutor is favorably disposed, he will gladly support the game. However, if this does not happen, do not get upset. Many girls who do not know how to flirt with a guy correctly, in this situation are lost and then become self-absorbed. Do not do this, because this is not your fault. If you fail, smile blindingly, thank the stranger for help and calmly go about your business.
How to learn to flirt with guys, a few more secrets:
- read a lot, in order to always be an interesting companion. Be always up-to-date with the latest developments in the world of music, cinema, politics and economics;
- always be yourself. In order to please a man, it is not necessary to appear before him as a fatal temptress;
- Be able to listen without interrupting. Any guy likes to be listened attentively and with genuine interest. To show interest, you can sometimes ask the interviewee leading questions, comment on some of his words;
- say compliments. However, in this matter it is necessary to observe the measure, because sometimes praise may sound like flattery.