Children's masturbation

Sometimes it happens that the parents, going into the room, find their child playing with their sex organs. Their first reaction, of course, will be a shock. But, when he retreats, in any case you can not shout at the child, pulling and slapping his hands. Let's calmly understand how to behave and what to do with childish masturbation.

Childhood masturbation - what is it?

First, let's understand what your child did.

If you are caught behind such a juicy occupation of the baby the first two years of life, then this is the usual childish curiosity. He does not yet know that there are forbidden places on the body. In this case, you just need to switch the child's attention to something else, without focusing on this activity. After all, the concept of the sweetness of the forbidden fruit, even at such a young age is actual.

But if a child is older, the structure of his body has long been studied and still pushes his hands in panties, then parents should seriously think about. Since this is a child's occupation, it can be a signal about psychological problems.

Causes of childish masturbation

Why do children engage in masturbation? It often happens that the parents themselves are to blame for this. Here is a list of the main parent errors:

1. First of all, lack of caress, parental care, participation. The child begins to withdraw in himself and seeks to discharge. In this case, masturbation becomes a "discharge".
2. Excessive parental strictness, wrong education. In such families, the child feels lonely and unloved. Of course, it's eating him, and he's trying to get distracted. Here the worst begins, if suddenly at the moment of distraction the kid feels that masturbation brings pleasure, reduces anxiety, then he can continue to do it. But already consciously and deliberately.
3. Any strong childish suffering and distress can lead a child to engage in masturbation.

This was a list of psychological causes of childhood masturbation. Now let's move on to the physical:

1. Poorly observed children's hygiene, uncomfortable tight clothing - all this leads to the appearance of itching and intertrigo in the inguinal area.
2. Feeding through strength. The oral zone is directly connected to the genital area. During feeding against his will, children do not feel satisfied with eating. And at this moment the genital zone is excited at the psychological level. Naturally, the child will begin to touch the genitals.
3. Slaps of the child on the pope and other physical punishments provoke a rush of blood to the groin area, contributing to this excitement of the child.

How to deal with childish masturbation?

Looking at the points of child masturbation, one can draw the following conclusions:

• give the child as much attention as he requires;
• we observe hygiene;
• we forget about this method of education, as corporal punishment;
• we feed the child to the best of his needs.

It is also worth watching the child before going to sleep, it is better to teach him to sleep on his side, palms under the cheek so that there is no temptation.

The problem does not go away

If you notice that by the age of 10 the child does not stop doing masturbation, then it is necessary to consult a sex therapist and a child psychiatrist. Your child may have increased hypersexuality, or early psychosexual development began. In any case, the help of specialists will not be superfluous, since many children are unable to cope with this problem on their own. And the consequences of masturbation in childhood can lead to psychological problems in the future, both in relations with the opposite sex, and in personal self-esteem.

Soundly assess the current situation. Understand that masturbation only helps to defuse and relax, so look for and eliminate the causes of nervous tension in your child.