There are no ideal relations, and all couples are in the grinding phase, especially when they start living together. Let's look at the situations that most often cause conflicts.
It is difficult to find a couple who would not have experienced difficulties living with each other under one roof. Especially often problems arise at the initial stage, the so-called "lapping". Thanks to surveys, it was possible to establish things that irritate both men and women in their lives together.
1. Change for convenience
Many consider it their duty to change a partner, because he is not good enough, smart, affectionate, tactful and so on. But show a man who likes to be indulged and constantly told how to act properly, but how not. It is important to realize that you love a person for who he is. You can give tips and advice, but do not bend under a partner.
2. Continuous monitoring
According to surveys, another common reason for parting pairs is total control. The partner wants to know about any little things and requires a report every half hour, all this is a burden on the shoulders and causes conflicts. There are situations where attempts at control are disguised as care. In this situation, there is only one right decision - frank conversation. It is important to learn about the reasons for such a relationship and clarify the need for personal space. When people are happy in a relationship, they will not have a desire to change.
3. It is better to apologize
Many live by the principle that it is better to apologize just in case, to smooth out a possible conflict. As a result, a person does not even seek to know the cause of the offense in order to exclude it in the future. Particularly irritating situations are when "forgive" is almost equated with "hello." Learn to talk, ask questions and listen to a partner. Thanks to this it will be possible not only to get rid of the problem, but also better to know the other half.
4. Financial disagreements
Another common cause of the conflict is a joint budget, for which the couple may have different views. Quarrels fall in love, both because of large, and because of small purchases, and reports on the money spent may become like a humiliation. It is better, before forming a budget, to stipulate everything in order to reach a common solution. For example, the option may be as follows: each invests a certain amount in the overall budget, and leaves the rest at home.
5. Fighting for a blanket
Many couples are faced with such a problem, when the blankets for two are not enough. As a result, an unofficial struggle begins for him, and someone eventually remains "naked." The solution is trivial: if you can not find a large blanket, and quarrels arise more often, then just buy each for your own. This does not mean that love has passed, it will just be more comfortable.
6. Playing the psychics
This is more true of women who for some reason are sure that a man should know about their desires. In the end, one takes offense, and the other does not know what happened, and where he stumbled. The cold game of "silence" is the cause of numerous conflicts. The conclusion is simple: understand that a loved one does not possess psychic abilities - to find out what is on your mind, he is incapable. It is better to speak openly about one's desires than provoke a quarrel.
7. Punishment with sex
Psychologists unanimously repeat that it is a huge mistake to punish the other half with a refusal to have sexual intercourse. If you often practice this, you can push a partner to betrayal. One should not become sex and a way to get some gift or offer. To begin with, it is worthwhile to understand that it is important to distinguish between sexual blackmail and denial for objective reasons. To solve the problem you need only a confidential conversation.
8. Owl ≠ Skylark
It is very difficult to establish a life for a couple in which people have different biological rhythms. It is impossible not to be annoyed when you want to sleep, and the beloved is full of energy and he wants adventure, or he wakes up early in the morning and turns into a stormy activity. If you do not want to part, then in this situation you have to work: you need to analyze, determine the hours when both people are active, and devote them to each other. After this, begin to gradually shift the sleep time, and from two sides, so that they began to at least roughly coincide. Thanks to a fixed working day, it will be possible to find a compromise.
9. The burden of waiting
Living together, for general events, you have to gather and go out together, but here you can not do without waiting. A familiar situation for many men - with all the parade waiting at the threshold of the beloved, who can not pick up shoes under the dress or lipstick under her purse. To keep calm in such a situation is a difficult task, and in the end everything ends in conflict. Here, only women can smooth out sharp angles, which should either do it faster or start gathering earlier.
10. Lack of personal space
Each person needs a "personal angle" where one can remain alone with oneself and just relax, dream and exhale. Often this desire becomes the cause of conflict, because a partner may not understand why the other half wants to be alone, can there be an insult? In order to exclude conflicts, sincere conversation is important, where it is necessary to explain your desires with accessible words.
11. Unexpected guests
I really want to relax after work, lie down in silence or watch your favorite TV series, but you open the door, and there - a party. As a result, not only the evening is spoiled, but also a mountain of unwashed dishes, scattered things and an empty refrigerator awaits. The solution of such situations is very simple - agree with the chosen one that guests should be warned in advance.
12. Personal public things
When people begin to live together, all things seem to become common, which sometimes irritates, for example, one does not want someone to take their favorite pillow, or to drink from a personal cup. Delezhka to my-yours will not lead to anything good, so it's best to each make a list of things that you do not want to share, and exchange them. Just do not touch these things without permission, and the question will be closed.
13. Misunderstanding with new relatives
Making friends with a person, no one knows what kind of relatives he has, and whether it will be possible to establish communication with them. Anecdotes on the topic of terrible mother-in-law and mother-in-law are huge and, unfortunately, they sometimes become reality. If the relationship is not working, you need to look for a compromise, but at the same time tolerate rudeness and unjustified accusations - not necessarily. Each partner must independently deal with his relatives. Another rule - do not need to tell relatives during conflicts, what a bad beloved person, because it engenders in them hostility.
14. Password exchange
Social networks have become in many pairs an apple of discord and the usual "like" have become equated with treason. The phrase "let's exchange passwords" is familiar to many and it has a place to be, only if this right is not later abused, read the correspondence and the like. In fact, you should immediately delineate everything so that there are no problems. In critical situations, the partner must be able to enter the account or withdraw funds from the account, but the most important is trust.
15. Notorious bytovuha
The reason, because of which the pair break up most often - is a mismatch in everyday matters. For example, one of the partners used to hang things on the chair, do not close the tube of toothpaste, do not wash the cup and so on. All this becomes the cause of conflicts, because getting rid of your habits is not so easy. Only patience and calm conversations will help here, and screaming and persistent struggle will only aggravate the situation.