Sending a child to school, parents hope at least for a while to get rid of responsibility for it. More precisely, shift this responsibility to the shoulders of teachers. Let them educate, teach, punish, encourage ...
However, as it turns out, this approach can very quickly lead to disastrous consequences. Often, in that the child does not want to study, it is his parents who are to blame for the learning process.
Why do children not want to learn?
If the child has lost interest in learning, analyze which of the factors could play a role.
- Studies do not attract a child, since all his interests are outside the school walls. Computer games, sports, music - very often the child's teacher is indifferent to these hobbies, but ignoring the interests of the child, they can not and interest him with their subject.
- In school, the child does not get along with peers, because everything that he associates with their pastime, causes a teenager's protest and reluctance to interact.
- There are bad relationships with teachers. This is not only the case with "twins". Unconcerned teachers who have not achieved success in their lives can recoup on the children of successful parents, who often know more than the teacher himself. In this case, for a good answer or composition, the teacher may not put a deserved high ball, and the child - to suffer. After all, children have a very developed sense of "justice", and undeserved praises, like unearned encouragement, they experience more sharply than an adult.
- Parents or teachers do not sufficiently support the child's interest, showing that "all in life" a person owes not high scores in school and not good performance, but luck, ability to adapt to the situation.
- Or, on the contrary, the child knows that parents will always think for him, so they will choose the best teachers, they will support the interest in studying in any circle, because any kind of activity becomes uninteresting to him. In such a situation, the child feels himself literally the "center" of the family, but with the responsibility assigned to him is unable to cope. Precisely because psychological defense, in this situation, "shoots" the disagreement to fulfill elementary school requirements, even if the content of the subject is interesting to the child.
How to interest a teenager in school?
Having determined the reason behind the unwillingness to learn, parents can motivate their child and return him interest in learning.
How can we increase interest in learning and develop interest in it?
- In the event that an unspoken "harassment" is announced against your child, both on the part of students and on the part of teachers, the best way to return the child to peace will be either the option of establishing friendship with the "enemy" or the option of transferring to another educational institution. You can establish friendship in several ways. If it's about teenagers, it will be useful to have an extra-curricular activity in which you, as parents of the child, take part and, for example, bring schoolchildren to the cinema, to a museum or go to another city. During such an event it is important to establish psychological contact with the "enemy", showing that you can have common interests, or that you, as a person, are cute. If it's about the enmity between the boys, you can arrange a family football match, go together on a sortie out of town. In the case of a problematic relationship in the teacher, try playing "ahead of the curve." Do not make claims to the teacher, do not say that you will complain to your superiors. On the contrary, if, for example, the teacher is a chemist, approach him after class and explain that you would like the child to study chemistry at the university, and therefore this discipline is very important for him. Ask once a week to conduct individual lessons. Very often the initial hostility subsequently develops into a great friendship, and this chance should be taken advantage of.
- Do not "press" on the child, making him excessive demands, do not blame for poor progress and in any case do not use "strong expressions". "Play" with his interest. For example, say that this year you do not have the means to pay teachers for him in a foreign language. Perhaps, in this case, he himself
the child will approach you with the question: "Maybe you will still be able to pay me English, because in a year I will forget everything I've learned." Do not "drag" the child to buy books that he does not want to look at, better acquaint him with the person for whom books are part of his life and which will certainly make a strong impression on the child. In the eyes of authority, the child does not want to seem "ignorant," and interest in literature will manifest itself. - Watch also that in the educational institution where your child goes, real teachers worked, showing a sincere interest in their subject. Only in this case, studies will not become a farce and a formality, perhaps, in this case, the child will not have to be interested in additionally. A good team of teachers and students, keen on the subject, will do everything for you.