Audacity second happiness

Did you have to, after muttering after the squeezed person without queue, mentally add to the dissatisfied "arrogance - second happiness" question mark? Or we unreservedly believe that it is so, but, for some reason, this is "second happiness" - something indecent and unattainable for us.

Let's think together, is it so bad arrogance, as it is commonly believed. And where is that face, when it's about the courage to do something we say that it's audacity and arrogance.

First, think about your attitude to arrogance: do you consider it a second happiness, a vice or something that would be very useful to you. Many blame this quality, but there are those who ask how arrogance to develop.

Insolence is not a defect?

Or a vice? Think: most of us behaved more impudently in childhood, until parents instilled guilt. A very small boldness gets out of hand, and is diagnosed as childish spontaneity. But then spontaneity suddenly becomes unceremonious, impudent and even a problem of outright rudeness, and the range of what is considered decent sharply narrows. In adult, independent life, each person establishes the boundaries of impudence, but how much they are broad depends largely on parenting.

What does the word arrogance mean? This is impudence, as well as a person's conviction that he deserves the best. In this context, it sounds not so bad, you will agree, because there is nothing shameful in wanting to get the maximum out of life. No wonder they say that the insolence of the city takes, because it would have formed our history, do not be on the ground of daring people.

Another thing is when a person does not know the measure, and his impudence has no limit. When it comes to the loss of respect for others, a healthy arrogance gives way to unceremoniousness. And then the question arises, how to fight with such arrogance.

How to resist arrogance?

In most cases, the one whose behavior we regard as shameless, does not suspect that he is doing something that you can not afford. That is, it is not the other that puts itself above, but you yourself belittle yourself. Top of impudence - a very conventional concept. However, it happens that we face frank rudeness, and do not know how to respond to arrogance.

  1. First, try to understand whether there is disrespect to others in the behavior of the insolent person. If arrogance is the result of disrespect, then do not be shy to put the man who has nagged you into place. Especially, if after parting you are indignant and say possible answers, which have remained unspoken. After all, it turns out that not only the impudent person considers you unworthy, but you yourself.
  2. Very often rudeness is fated, and appears as a result of uncertainty. If you catch this note in the behavior of another man, it will be easier for you to perceive his attempts to cover the vulnerable places with a shell of impudence and audacity.
  3. If possible, try to brazen people to avoid or at least reduce communication to a minimum.

And, finally, if you face arrogance at every turn, think about what's wrong with your self-esteem and worldview. Perhaps you chose the victim's position, and so the people around you sit on your neck. Fugitives, cads, deceivers and scammers - all these people feel those who are most easily hurt by their behavior. Therefore, the best way to fight arrogance is to love and respect yourself!