If u is the most underrated word in the world, then surely this word is "thank you" ...
Agree, in what life situation we would not be, it will always be appropriate and timely. So why is it easier for us to find thousands of other explanations, instead of just saying it?
And let's say on the international day of the word "thank you" that we lose 5 standard situations in which we should give up kilometers of meaningless chatter, and limit ourselves to this concise word of gratitude ...
1. You were complimented
It's hard to believe, but most people do not know how to accept compliments. And, perhaps, you are one of them! Well, how many times, instead of just enjoying and enjoying what is happening, did you suddenly start denying everything and being too modest, afraid of appearing complacent? But the person who sincerely wanted to tell you pleasant words, next time think three times - whether he should do it again.
Example: "I really liked your dress!"
Wrong: "Oh, if you knew how old it is! I can not even remember when and where I bought it! "
That's right: "Thank you. Nice to hear this!"
But everything is simple - by taking a compliment in your address, you thereby recognize personal success and opportunities. And by rejecting or rejecting it, you deny what you yourself have achieved / achieved. Will you try to just say "thank you" next time?
2. You are late
Yes, the situation is unpleasant for both sides - you were in a stressful situation, and at the same time showed disrespect to the person who is waiting for you. Do you think the words of gratitude will be out of place here, and it's better to torment the waiting for you story about the reasons for the delay from the threshold? Let's check…
Example: you resort to a meeting with a 15-minute delay.
Wrong: "I'm wildly sorry, but the bus was not there for long, and then this cork and ... the fifth-tenth."
That's right: "Thank you for waiting" or "Thank you for your patience."
That's it - it's better not to apologize for a miss, but to express gratitude for loyalty!
3. When you are criticized
Criticism is different - both useful and constructive, and unreasonable and unfair, as a consequence of the manifestation of vengefulness. But, the result is one - we do not like it always! So, there is "good news" - responding in any case to criticism with gratitude, you neutralize the power of such statements, use the information received to become even better, get rid of the negative and move on the winner!
Example: "You have coped with this task worse than nowhere. After trusting him to you, we expected a different result! "
Wrong: "Excuse me, please. But here it happened. I would have done it better, only ... "
That's right: "Thank you, it's nice to know that you expected more."
4. During Consolation and Support
When there are sad or problem events in the lives of our loved ones and friends, the first thing you want to support them with the right words. This is where the search for a positive in a delicate situation begins, like "Well, at least, you ...", when it is completely out of place!
Example: your sister divorces her husband.
Wrong: "Well, at least, you have such good children growing up."
Correctly: "Thank you for sharing. I'm with you".
At such a moment, even your most sincere words of comfort can not change anything for the better, therefore, it is much more important simply to thank for trust and stay close.
5. Say the word "thank you" more often
You will be surprised, but there are people who thank you too much! They bring the cake to work, simply because they were helped with the report, they are looking for a postcard with gratitude, if a distant relative gave them hello or leave a generous tip even when everything has already been paid for.
And try to say the word "thank you" more often!