Ironically, the education of a man, although it should lie on the shoulders of his mother, often still remains his wife. After all, it is she who will instill in the man a lot of useful economic habits, without which marriage simply can not remain positive and strong. After all, life becomes the main cause of divorce.
How to raise a real man?
First of all, it is necessary to learn the main rule: if a mother can yell at a son (which, however, does not at all color her), then her husband does not have the right to go down to such a thing. Before her is not a five-year-old dirty-ass, but a grown-up man with formed habits and character. That's why in no case do you need to go over to screaming and scandals - it's this, and not a forgotten T-shirt, that can cause serious problems in marriage.
The main lever of managing a man is his self-esteem. From childhood he was taught that he must be a peasant, strong, courageous, who decides serious questions. It is from this that we need to build on the question of how to raise a man.
In addition, you need to be the very person for whom you want to try. If you go home in an old robe and grumble all the time - it's unlikely that your husband will want to do something for you. But when the relationship is positive, and you are beautiful and well-groomed, the desire to help you in whatever it is to form a man is very simple.
Do not forget that not all features are amenable to change. For example, if a man by nature introvert, you will not force him to share with you everything that happens to him. If not romantic - then he does not guess gently hug you after watching the melodrama together (if he even agrees to see it). You can only slightly adjust his household habits, but keep in mind that you yourself will have to make concessions. None of you are obliged to adjust to the second, and therefore, everyone will have to change, because without it you will find it difficult to coexist together.
In general, men brought up by women differ from others except by the fact that they listen more to their spouses and help them around the house. You can not turn a shag into a businessman, a slob in a neat, a donjuan in an exemplary family man, and an alcoholic in a normal person, and hundreds of unhappy women who entered this path can confirm this to you. A man must initially be good - true, honest, non-drinker, not aggressive. Otherwise it will be very difficult with him - you can not change it.
Female education of a man
There are no two people who have met, began to live together - and immediately coincided in each of their household habits. The education of a real man, who will be compatible with you, should be gentle, gentle and gradual.
For example, you send it to a store, and it stably brings not what you need. Your man does not know why you choose
Many family problems revolve around the arrangement of things. If your man is throwing his things around the house, and you are not ready to collect them, you can take them and hang them on the monitor of his computer or TV - where they will definitely interfere with him so that he finally understands them.
Do not forget about the most important thing: if it is for him basically to cut a piece of bread not along, but across, sometimes it's easier to retrain yourself than to talk about it every day. Go for compromises!