Sexual relations are an important aspect of the relationship between a man and a woman. Each of the partners has its secrets, some of which we will try to solve.
For some men, sex is emotional relaxation
There are times when a man is very tight and tense, to share information that so worries him, he does not want and at the moment he needs only sex. Very rarely there are representatives of the stronger sex who can express their emotions, pain, fear or confusion. Thus, for a certain time a man saves all these emotions in himself, and then splashes out them with one single and normal, in his opinion, way - sex. Women are the other way around, if they are worried about something, it's very hard to be attuned to sex. And for men, sexual relations are sometimes the only way to show their feelings. Many women experience such emotional detente and they feel used.
How to solve this problem?
Try to talk with a partner, but not during sex. Best of all, not giving an appearance to satisfy his needs, and after that bring to a serious conversation. Give the partner to understand that you understand him, and do not blame for such behavior. If you deny a man in the vicinity without a particularly important reason, he will feel unnecessary and rejected.
If a man starts to pester, obviously letting him know that he wants to have sex, and you push him away with the words "Leave me alone", believe me, next time he might not want you. Every man has sex with his hidden emotions, and you reject it. At such moments, the beloved considers himself humiliated and very upset about this. Your phrase - "I'm tired", he understands for himself - "You're not welcome, I do not like you." Therefore it is proved that men love women who do not hide their desire and are always ready for sex, in such a situation they feel more confident and refusal does not affect them in any way.
If you are really tired and have no strength for sex, explain everything to him calmly and with arguments. After that, he should not feel humiliated and rejected. Say that you love him and sex is very important, but now is not the right time, because he also has such situations.
Erection does not mean having a desire to have sex
Many women will be surprised, but an erection in a man may not mean that he is sexually aroused and wants to have sex with you. To be clearer, let's consider the causes of erection, which are not associated with sexual arousal:
- Morning erection is most often due to the fact that the man has a full bladder, and, consequently, the pressure in the lower part of the pelvis increases.
- Friction of tight clothing can promote an erection, and everything, because on the penis is located
a huge number of nerve endings, friction about which increases the flow of blood. - Erection is affected by stress , because at this time the blood vessels narrow, and, consequently, the pressure increases.
Have sex or love?
Men are significantly different from women, and if you love romance, they prefer spontaneity and healthy passionate sex, especially when you need to lose tension and fatigue, which are not the best foreplay friends so beloved by most women.